"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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meeting a girl i never met

we all eat food

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this girl who is friends with one of my friends, who she hates a lot now, asked me to go the mall with her tommorow, but i dont know her. should I bring a friend with me or not, what should i do.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Either she wants you as a friend or she wants you as a BF.

IF you feel uncomfortable going by yourself, then tell her to bring one of her friends (so you can you a friend of yours too).

Its just the mall, so don't expect to get a BJ.
 

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i'd go by myself (if u think she is pretty)
 

intha_burbz

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id doesnt matter if he wants to go to the mall. Dawg have u read any of this guys posts. theyva ll been about how he used to havelots of friends and now he doesnt. Dawg u better go to the mall with this chick because 1) gain some valuble experience
2) socialize with a girl for a couple of hours
3)at worst you could have this girl as a friend who you can talk too and might introduce you to many of her firends
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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