That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What's this world coming to ER!C? Now you've let women sucker you into posting your astrological sign. Whats next, you gonna start sitting down when you pee?Originally posted by ER!C L!VE
ENTJ
Capricorn
Gemini rising
Aw ya big cutie. Come here and give me a hug =POriginally posted by MacAvoy
What's this world coming to ER!C? Now you've let women sucker you into posting your astrological sign. Whats next, you gonna start sitting down when you pee?
Thats right, you know I'm BIG? :flowers:Originally posted by ER!C L!VE
Aw ya big cutie. Come here and give me a hug =P
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
People do think i'm somewhat arrogant though i'm not at all.To outsiders, INTJs may appear to project an aura of "definiteness", of self-confidence. This self-confidence, sometimes mistaken for simple arrogance by the less decisive
LOL .. yeah that's me. My own boss.apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion "Does it work?" to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This in turn produces an unusual independence of mind, freeing the INTJ from the constraints of authority, convention, or sentiment for its own sake.
Well, if you notice...those who posted the things I asked them to are showing that I was right..Originally posted by MacAvoy
What's this world coming to ER!C? Now you've let women sucker you into posting your astrological sign. Whats next, you gonna start sitting down when you pee?
Well, I am an INFJ (2% of population) and Aries/Taurus, Fire/Earth. I feel so special, lol.Fire and Earth signs tend to be Extroverts and Air and Water signs tend to be Introverts.
Originally posted by syncmaster
ENTJ - Alpha Male Baby!
I'm part of the 2% of the population that consisted of Napoleon Bonaparte, Alexander the Great, Donald Trump...This is cool.
"Hardly more than two percent of the total population, the Fieldmarshals are bound to lead others, and from an early age they can be observed taking command of groups. In some cases, Fieldmarshals simply find themselves in charge of groups, and are mystified as to how this happened. But the reason is that Fieldmarshals have a strong natural urge to give structure and direction wherever they are -- to harness people in the field and to direct them to achieve distant goals. They resemble Supervisors in their tendency to establish plans for a task, enterprise, or organization, but Fieldmarshals search more for policy and goals than for regulations and procedures."
http://typelogic.com/entj.html
lol - talk about an ego stroke. hahah