Advice from the old lady:
This original woman making the complaint has run into reality. That’s all. She’s had a good relationship history if she married early & was widowed after 30 years. She was possibly a good wife. But she married in her youth and at the peak of her natural beauty. She’s disillusioned. She let herself go physically and her late husband did not hold her feet the fire. Maybe he got fat and lazy too. That often happens.
You bet men who have made the effort to look good & keep fit require women who care what they look like. I’ve had 3 children too. I weigh 115lbs and keep my hair long almost to my waist, I work out, I eat disciplined and clean and I dress well & carry myself with poise & confidence. I look better in a bikini than at least 50% of women half my age. It’s not an accident. It’s a lifestyle.
Add to that the fact that good looking in shape men can always date younger. So to attract at my age the desirable men a woman needs to be fit, beautiful, emotionally stable, cool and fun. Men I’m interested in can always date 5 to 30 years younger. That’s not true of a man in his 20s. This woman doesn’t grasp that concept. Rather she resents it.
Women need to understand the reality of life in this area and embrace it. Trouble is that many women are too lazy, entitled and bitter to adopt the required lifestyle to stay relevant. So they whine about it.
My attitude is “Whine all you like. More desirable men available to me who find me attractive.” I didn’t create the landscape but I accept it, understand it and equip myself to excel within it. And I have a big smile on my face about it too...which is also attractive!
We can bitter or we can be better. I’m about being better. Life is a whole lot more fun that way.
Cheers