Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hows your skin and you must also lift weights in your fitness regiment?Advice from the old lady:
This original woman making the complaint has run into reality. That’s all. She’s had a good relationship history if she married early & was widowed after 30 years. She was possibly a good wife. But she married in her youth and at the peak of her natural beauty. She’s disillusioned. She let herself go physically and her late husband did not hold her feet the fire. Maybe he got fat and lazy too. That often happens.
You bet men who have made the effort to look good & keep fit require women who care what they look like. I’ve had 3 children too. I weigh 115lbs and keep my hair long almost to my waist, I work out, I eat disciplined and clean and I dress well & carry myself with poise & confidence. I look better in a bikini than at least 50% of women half my age. It’s not an accident. It’s a lifestyle.
Add to that the fact that good looking in shape men can always date younger. So to attract at my age the desirable men a woman needs to be fit, beautiful, emotionally stable, cool and fun. Men I’m interested in can always date 5 to 30 years younger. That’s not true of a man in his 20s. This woman doesn’t grasp that concept. Rather she resents it.
Women need to understand the reality of life in this area and embrace it. Trouble is that many women are too lazy, entitled and bitter to adopt the required lifestyle to stay relevant. So they whine about it.
My attitude is “Whine all you like. More desirable men available to me who find me attractive.” I didn’t create the landscape but I accept it, understand it and equip myself to excel within it. And I have a big smile on my face about it too...which is also attractive!
We can bitter or we can be better. I’m about being better. Life is a whole lot more fun that way.
Cheers
As a young person I always had oily skin. So my skin remains supple. I have very few wrinkles and very few dark spots. A girl I knew in my early 20s got skin cancer from the tanning beds that were popular in the 80s. I was 20 at that time. It made quite an impression on me so I quit laying out & trying to be tan. Sun damage wrecks the skin. I avoided excessive sun exposure since my early 20s and thus my skin is in good shape now.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
that one was in public---Travis didn't know about anti-slut defense. She felt compelled to leave out of public shame
