Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I repeat....Pakwah said:I'm not married....she is.
She even asked me 'so i guess were dating now'
Thing is, i like this one. We share alot of interests and i am not in any rush to get her into bed
So you are falling in love with her.Pakwah said:I'm not married....she is.
She even asked me 'so i guess were dating now'
Thing is, i like this one. We share alot of interests and i am not in any rush to get her into bed
Latinoman said:So you are falling in love with her.
LOL.
I feel sorry for you.
By the way, I know of a case that happened about 5 or 6 years ago. A couple (married couple friend of the woman) was visiting this recently divorced woman. They were there with their children and there was another guy there and I guess the woman's children too.
The ex-husband came in armed...tied up all the adults and send the children to the room. Then he came back and killed ALL the adults (including the innocent by-standers that were just visiting). He then killed himself.
I know this story because their were some custody battle for the orphan children of the couple that was visiting the recently divorced woman as they were killed in that house too and left the children orphan.
That's what happen when a man feels that he is losing something as most men that are getting divorced feel that way.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Pakwah said:...So we have a history - i dont want to be a 'rebound' its just we click on many levels. I went from being a guy who was going to have '5 girls' to just wanting one and only one. She cracked my wall i've had up for the last six months and i am in no real hurry to close it up just yet
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yeah because that punishment fits the crime...TillTheEndOfTime said:Biggest
AFC
Ever
It is times like this that I wish I was religious so that I can hope he burns in hell in agony for eternity.
Wow, what a hor! Just 5 months and already cashing in...Pakwah said:Got married five months ago but is filing for divorce....
First, you have one-itisI went from being a guy who was going to have '5 girls' to just wanting one and only one. She cracked my wall i've had up for the last six months and i am in no real hurry to close it up just yet
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.