"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Married Women...
- Thread starter Pakwah
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
Why are you getting a divorce after only 5 months?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
PigAdlemPimp
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:yes: Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I repeat....Pakwah said:
Beware of becoming the 'rebound guy.' :nono:
So you are falling in love with her.Pakwah said:
LOL.
I feel sorry for you.
By the way, I know of a case that happened about 5 or 6 years ago. A couple (married couple friend of the woman) was visiting this recently divorced woman. They were there with their children and there was another guy there and I guess the woman's children too.
The ex-husband came in armed...tied up all the adults and send the children to the room. Then he came back and killed ALL the adults (including the innocent by-standers that were just visiting). He then killed himself.
I know this story because their were some custody battle for the orphan children of the couple that was visiting the recently divorced woman as they were killed in that house too and left the children orphan.
That's what happen when a man feels that he is losing something as most men that are getting divorced feel that way.
TillTheEndOfTime
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Latinoman said:
Biggest
AFC
Ever
It is times like this that I wish I was religious so that I can hope he burns in hell in agony for eternity.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
We knew each other 3 years ago. Would chat online for maybe no more than 2-5 minutes a month if that
So one day i said, you know if you werent going out with x and i wasn't dating y - i would have asked you out.
She reply was 'really - i would have said yes'
So after hanging out lately she tells me back then she had this huge crush on me. I liked her too.
So we have a history - i dont want to be a 'rebound' its just we click on many levels. I went from being a guy who was going to have '5 girls' to just wanting one and only one. She cracked my wall i've had up for the last six months and i am in no real hurry to close it up just yet
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Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Pakwah said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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- She's a bytch
- He wasn't interested in her
Also, since you don't have both sides of the story, don't forget to include the possibility that she made up excuses and used her imagination to get out of the marriage.
There's something not quite right here. She's eagerly dating someone while the ink is still drying on the marriage papers. It makes me wonder what the motivation was behind the marriage. Did she lead him into something he didn't want? Or did he lead her into it?
Divorced women are damaged goods. Divorced women with kids are more damaged. Twice divorced women are even worse. Just curious, how old is this woman?
Now, here's what's wrong with you:
First, you have one-itis
Second, you seem to be addicted to drama yourself. You want to date a freshly married separated woman. If that isn't bad enough, what happened to your possibly pregnant ex that you and her bf were fvcking at the same time?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.