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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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Married girl approached me at gym,follows me etc

Hollywood4life

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I approach Girls at the gym never the opposite...this girl hb 9 19yr old approached me (I didn’t approach her because I knew she was married and had kid from a friend) .We have talked 3 or 4 times(She’s never mentioned said husband ) and I usually would just forget getting with a married girl with a kid because it’s just not worth the headache like you guys know, there’s a million other girls out to approach but she’s atleast an 8 or 9.... I was like screw it she seems so DTF I’ll grab her number..

Right off the bat she says I have a boyfriend(didn’t say husband) and stumbled on giving me her number and than I said just give me your Snapchat, she did but kinda hestitated.

Was she just wanting attention or should I message her?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I approach Girls at the gym never the opposite...this girl hb 9 19yr old approached me (I didn’t approach her because I knew she was married and had kid from a friend) .We have talked 3 or 4 times(She’s never mentioned said husband ) and I usually would just forget getting with a married girl with a kid because it’s just not worth the headache like you guys know, there’s a million other girls out to approach but she’s atleast an 8 or 9.... I was like screw it she seems so DTF I’ll grab her number..

Right off the bat she says I have a boyfriend(didn’t say husband) and stumbled on giving me her number and than I said just give me your Snapchat, she did but kinda hestitated.

Was she just wanting attention or should I message her?
Do whatever you want to. Personally I would simply tell her something like "I find you very attractive but don't want to ruin a happy relationship. If things change feel free to get in touch, I would like to get to know you better."

This does a few things for you. It lets her know you aren't thirsty, it gives her a chance to say the relationship isn't a happy one, which she most certainly will do if it isn't and she is attracted to you, and it leaves the door open for her to contact you while you go about your life. You also express interest in her.

I would bet she will contact you at some point. No woman who is married and isn't looking for something on the side is going to approach guys at the gym and give them access to reach her. Just play it cool and she will initiate contact.
 

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Do whatever you want to. Personally I would simply tell her something like "I find you very attractive but don't want to ruin a happy relationship. If things change feel free to get in touch, I would like to get to know you better."

This does a few things for you. It lets her know you aren't thirsty, it gives her a chance to say the relationship isn't a happy one, which she most certainly will do if it isn't and she is attracted to you, and it leaves the door open for her to contact you while you go about your life. You also express interest in her.

I would bet she will contact you at some point. No woman who is married and isn't looking for something on the side is going to approach guys at the gym and give them access to reach her. Just play it cool and she will initiate contact.
Thanks , sounds like a good hand to play
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It sounds like she knows you from her social circle and just wanted to say hi.
She had a kid with a friend of yours, correct?

How did the conversation go?
What did she say when she approached you?
Was she flirting with you or what?
She just wanted some attention from the way you described it. I bet most of her friends are staying at home because of the current covid-19 social restrictions.
 

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Why 1st downgrade yourself to phone # and then downgrade to snapchat. She was looking for a quick bang IMO. Take her to your place out of that gym.
 

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Then go and approach rather than waste your time writing a thread like this.
Please go read another thread rather then waste your time being a d!ck to our new members.
 

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It sounds like she knows you from her social circle and just wanted to say hi.
She had a kid with a friend of yours, correct?

How did the conversation go?
What did she say when she approached you?
Was she flirting with you or what?
She just wanted some attention from the way you described it. I bet most of her friends are staying at home because of the current covid-19 social restrictions.
I know somebody she went to school with,they weren’t friends. She came up to me once just to say hi and tell me about herself and we small talked for 10mins,I tried making it sexual ,she really didn’t get sexual just mostly logical,a little flirty but it’s the first interaction I guess she seemed nervous

The next day right when I got to the gym she came up to me and said she forgot to tell me she had a job and she hoped I didn’t think she was a loser because of it,she had her friend right next to her so it was a 3 way convo,wasn’t able to get much out of the convo since the friend was there .

Next time I saw her I approached her and grabbed her snap,haven’t seen/talked to her since(a week ago )

Ever since she started coming to the gym 2 weeks ago she’s follows me every freaking where , on the direct next treadmill as me 3 or 4 times when’s there’s 50 other treadmills,everytime I look she staring at me, just crazy iois
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hollywood4life

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Why 1st downgrade yourself to phone # and then downgrade to snapchat. She was looking for a quick bang IMO. Take her to your place out of that gym.
I just started gaming recently , should I just tell her to comeover after the gym? Or message her to come over since she hasn’t been there in a while
 
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