"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Marriage = wellbeing
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This man says
1) Faith
2) Family
3) Friends
4) Work
is what makes a human being happy.
I think you could have 1, but if you're born with a toxic family,you could not have 2, and you've to build it yourself...
So you're starting off with an handicap.
Then, friends, you can chose them, and work too.
The real thing is that you really need the 1and3 to be your 2, when your 2 exist and it's so toxic.
One very important thing, is that He mention that a married man is really happier, than others.
I could believe that, because for any man who was married, and gone trought the thing, he knows how it felt.
He was in the bluepill, in that sort of feeling that if lasted a lifetime, would really made him so happy.
But since he now had a brealup, and experience on that, the man now value more being "alone" that trying again.
I do think there is trutht on saying that marriage can bring happines, because it makes the man "love" everyday, no matter what.
Men need challenges and a marriage is one of them.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
That's probably not the right way to think about it.
Nobody really "finds" a woman like that.
It just happens naturally so long as:
- You've got a genuinely decent personality
- You've got genuine social intelligence
- You come from a decent background with a decent upbringing
- You've got a strong social group
- You've got decent morals and a sense of ambition
- You meet people mostly through your long built social circle
- You and your future spouse share a lot of similar goals and ambitions
Most people were like this in the past.
Not a lot of people are like this today.
Hence the destruction of healthy relationships.
You can make up for lacking any of the above with "game."