"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Marriage = wellbeing
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This man says
1) Faith
2) Family
3) Friends
4) Work
is what makes a human being happy.
I think you could have 1, but if you're born with a toxic family,you could not have 2, and you've to build it yourself...
So you're starting off with an handicap.
Then, friends, you can chose them, and work too.
The real thing is that you really need the 1and3 to be your 2, when your 2 exist and it's so toxic.
One very important thing, is that He mention that a married man is really happier, than others.
I could believe that, because for any man who was married, and gone trought the thing, he knows how it felt.
He was in the bluepill, in that sort of feeling that if lasted a lifetime, would really made him so happy.
But since he now had a brealup, and experience on that, the man now value more being "alone" that trying again.
I do think there is trutht on saying that marriage can bring happines, because it makes the man "love" everyday, no matter what.
Men need challenges and a marriage is one of them.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
That's probably not the right way to think about it.
Nobody really "finds" a woman like that.
It just happens naturally so long as:
- You've got a genuinely decent personality
- You've got genuine social intelligence
- You come from a decent background with a decent upbringing
- You've got a strong social group
- You've got decent morals and a sense of ambition
- You meet people mostly through your long built social circle
- You and your future spouse share a lot of similar goals and ambitions
Most people were like this in the past.
Not a lot of people are like this today.
Hence the destruction of healthy relationships.
You can make up for lacking any of the above with "game."