Bokanovsky
Master Don Juan
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It's not. Backbreaker is not a real person; it's just an internet persona. Anyone who's read a half dozen of his posts would realize this....this cant be real...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's not. Backbreaker is not a real person; it's just an internet persona. Anyone who's read a half dozen of his posts would realize this....this cant be real...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
A Jewish girl named Maria from a small town in Mississippi. You have a higher chance of meeting a black guy named Ivan from Siberia...Right, you just came here to share your romantic story. That's what Sosuave is all about! "Tell me more, tell me more, did ya get very far..."
And she's proofreading your posts you say? Come on, whoever this is. The jig is up.
By the way - and everyone take note and check me on this - I live in NYC, and I have never, ever met a Jewish woman named "Maria." It's Miriam. Not saying it's impossible, but think about it.
Aren’t you married Zek ?If this is a troll, it's a good one.
This is another warning against getting married: This is just the sort of thing the woman usually does. 12 years together, the original hormones wear off, things aren't a novelty anymore, life goes on, things get routine....
Then one day, she meets a guy who sweeps her off her feet. The new guy is hot and exciting and makes her feel things she hasn't felt in over a decade. She didn't even know she could still feel this way until this new guy showed her. She still loves her husband, but she can't help it, no one makes her feel like this new guy. It isn't even anybody's fault, because "it just happened". Just like the swinging "just happened".
This can happen to anyone, you can't predict it. That's why it's just too risky to get married these days.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nope, cohabitate.Aren’t you married Zek ?
I live with my girlfriend. In a non-common law state.What does that mean?
Smart. Any tips on dodging marriage in an LTR.Nope, cohabitate.
Not really. I think I'm just fortunate in that my girlfriend understands my take on the subject. She's refreshingly mellow for a chick. I know most women probably have that "If you want it, you better put a ring on it" attitude.Smart. Any tips on dodging marriage in an LTR.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah, don't ask her to marry you.Smart. Any tips on dodging marriage in an LTR.
There's some truth in that. If her priority is being with you, she will be. If her priority is to get the marriage, she'll likely move on.if she really loves you, she wont require marriage.
6 years on my birthday and she's pregnant with our third child.I know this thread is old but after the "alleged" orgy you had with your wife I seriously don't see your marriage lasting long
Make no mistake your wife is probably getting some side action too
6 years on my birthday and she's pregnant with our third child.
backbreaker got dem swimmiers for yo azz lol
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wait, so you went from leaving your wife to bang some mistress on a dirty mattress in an alley to getting your wife pregnant and going back to her, all in the span of what, like a month or two? Are you sure you're ok? I mean, you realize that this is seriously flighty behavior right?def mine. was planned. will get paternity test still just becuase I did it with Joe and Chanel.
hoping for a boy. Chanel is a ****ing diva lol. i don't.. i mean i love my daughter but really would prefer a boy