She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
But, isn't persuasion a manipulation of someones thought proccess? I mean I could "persuade" you with force or "persuade you with words", either way I've manipultated your thinking.Luke!! said:Manipulation is quite unethical. Go with persuasion. Pick up the book 48 laws of power. It gives a big insight on that whole type of world.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
THE most recommended book on dealing with people. I agree.DJDamage said:"How to Win Friends and Influence People".
get "How to Have Confidence and Power in Dealing with People" by Les Giblin instead. Same underlying principle (people are ego based), better clarification and details on how to apply this concept to your social life, and practically no filler. Meanwhile, almost half of Carnegie's book is drawn out stories from the 1930'sRazorAzoth said:THE most recommended book on dealing with people. I agree.
It does not matter.ready123 said:Meanwhile, almost half of Carnegie's book is drawn out stories from the 1930's
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.