When you say... "achieving my values,"
What values exactly do you feel separate from, and are striving or focused upon achieving? and then Why for each value, please.
I don't know what you mean by separate from. Do you mean values that I have not achieved yet? And I am also going to assume that you mean the values for my #1 goal, because I can write a short book on each item that I hold as a value. I mean, I value beef liver, but I'm pretty sure that is not what this topic is about.
Entertainment = increases serotonin and regulates dopamine.
The feeling of low anxiety = anxiety is a killer, it produces cortisol, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. Low anxiety turns all of that off.
The feelings of love = Love is the most selfish emotion; an affirmation of controlling reality.
Hormones, especially HGH = The hormone that keeps humans living; it is the anti-aging hormone that promotes reproductive health also.
learning, knowledge = discovery of what was not known before for the purpose of being better able to control reality.
opening increasing potential = potential decreases anxiety by lending the approximation of achieving or over achieving values/goals.
I have achieved all of these values partially, but not enough to where it is satisfactory.
When you say... "I care what people think to the extent of exchanging values with that person. Of course I want there to be a relationship there, provided that the person has something that I uphold as a value.
Please give examples of what values you experienced as exchanged and how.
This is a dumb question.
I walk into a market and if they do not sell beef liver, I'm walking out; I don't have a relationship with them. Or if the market does have beef liver to sell, I want to exchange my currency for the liver; I have a relationship with them.
If a couple of 30-something women invite me to a bar with them, I don't want to go because these older women don't have enough to offer me. Or 20 year old guys and girls want to play some game with me, I go because I value what they have to offer (the traits that I listed above).
Does this answer the question sufficiently?