"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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making out: cheating?

Making out cheating?

  • Yea

    Votes: 47 95.9%
  • Na

    Votes: 2 4.1%

  • Total voters
    49

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Effington

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I don't see the scenario where that's not cheating, but it's obviously a less severe form than sex.
 

DoctorLW

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I don't think so. You can get up caught in the moment. How many of you would honestly turn away a girls kiss if it was coming for ya? It's a lot harder than you think. It's what you do after that.
 

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You sir, Are a jackass
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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BlakeW5

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The way I see it, cheating is anything you do that you wouldn't want your girl doing when you're not around. Pretty simple really.
 

KontrollerX

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Yep.

Thats a guaranteed relationship killer to any man that is not a symp/AFC or a swinger.
 

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I broke up with an ex because of a make out. the make out and the lay are not that far apart in my book. the gap is just logistics and how far she lets herself buy into the other guy's reality

I also think these boundaries are things you should establish at the beginning of the relationship
 

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this girl ive been seeing, but not officially going out with... made out with a guy last night, at the same club i was at!

this morning, she texted me asking if i hated her, and said she really fvcking like me.

i really dont know what to do about this, she defo likes me but i cant handle her doing this sh!t again.

she might've had sex with the guy as well cos i saw them going into another club, and it's likely she slept over at his afterwards.

this is messed up
 

lordson

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definately not relatioship material mate

have your fun with her if you want, but dont get involed with that one i say
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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randalll said:
this girl ive been seeing, but not officially going out with... made out with a guy last night, at the same club i was at!

this morning, she texted me asking if i hated her, and said she really fvcking like me.

i really dont know what to do about this, she defo likes me but i cant handle her doing this sh!t again.

she might've had sex with the guy as well cos i saw them going into another club, and it's likely she slept over at his afterwards.

this is messed up

at the same club u wer at? she clearly doesnt respect, call her up wen u feel like it but dont make her a priority at all
 

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yeah ok, well she's comin round inabit to talk, im just gonna tell her that if she doesnt change then its the last she'll see of me

worst thing is i lost my virginity to this chick one week ago. had sex 4 times altogether and shes said she likes me quite a bit, its gonna be hard to cut her out, gonna just tell her i dont wanna see her again

she's even admitted she's a c0ck, she's been thru something really traumatic recently though, and has been drunk pretty much every night since, thats the reason she fvcks up anyway. she's a good person really
 

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Different people define cheating as different things.

To get your definition ask yourself this. What would you end a relationship for

would you break up with your gf if she
-flirted with other guys
-went out with a guy friend 1 on 1 for casual fun
- made out with another man/woman
- had sex with another man/woman
-talks to other men on the phone or online in a sexuall way
- grinding other men at a club dancing

notice I put kissing/sex with other women because some men consider it cheating even if its another womanl. I have also heard it sucks alot to have your gf leave you for a women

also think about which of those would you find acceptable to do in front of your gf. If you wouldn't do it in front of her or want her to know you're doing it then it most likely is a form of cheating.
 

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randalll said:
yeah ok, well she's comin round inabit to talk, im just gonna tell her that if she doesnt change then its the last she'll see of me

worst thing is i lost my virginity to this chick one week ago. had sex 4 times altogether and shes said she likes me quite a bit, its gonna be hard to cut her out, gonna just tell her i dont wanna see her again

she's even admitted she's a c0ck, she's been thru something really traumatic recently though, and has been drunk pretty much every night since, thats the reason she fvcks up anyway. she's a good person really

so use her for what she is, a ***** to fvck, dont dedicate any of ur luv to her, meet better girls while talking to her
 

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Come on people, seriously? Drunken makeouts are pretty common and people are split 50/50 (girls and guys) on whether or not that is cheating... not like it shows in the results of this thread.

A drunken makeout is hard to stop, and seriously I don't see the big deal with it.

If there isn't contact with ****, tits, or pvssy it isn't cheating in my book.

And for the record, my girl can hook-up with another girl as much as she wants in any way she wants and I'd have no problem with it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Master Bates

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It's not sex, but it's still cheating. Any intimate or sexual physicality involving another girl (or guy if you're a girl) that you'd need to hide from your partner because they'd see it as an act of betrayal is obviously cheating. The fact that alcohol is involved is always a crappy excuse. You telling me that if you were in a relationship with a girl and found that she made out with some guy she knows from work or a guy she met at a bar that you wouldn't feel betrayed? It means she's not loyal to you.

My guess is that those who try to justify it as not cheating probably do so for their own benefit (they wanna go as far as they can with other girls when in a relationship).
 

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DoctorLW said:
Come on people, seriously? Drunken makeouts are pretty common and people are split 50/50 (girls and guys) on whether or not that is cheating... not like it shows in the results of this thread.

A drunken makeout is hard to stop, and seriously I don't see the big deal with it.

If there isn't contact with ****, tits, or pvssy it isn't cheating in my book.

And for the record, my girl can hook-up with another girl as much as she wants in any way she wants and I'd have no problem with it.
so you are cool with your girl having drunk make out sessions with guys?
 

DoctorLW

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It woudln't bother me at all. As long as she made out with him because she could, but not because she wanted to fvck him. If that makes sense.

We all have our definition of cheating. It's pretty clear that mine isn't shared by the populace of this board - not sure how much of the real life population it represents- but that I should probably be a bit more careful moving forward.
 

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DoctorLW said:
It woudln't bother me at all. As long as she made out with him because she could, but not because she wanted to fvck him. If that makes sense.

We all have our definition of cheating. It's pretty clear that mine isn't shared by the populace of this board - not sure how much of the real life population it represents- but that I should probably be a bit more careful moving forward.
Yeah, well I'd say your attitude towards your girlfriend sticking her tongue down another guy's throat is awfully atypical and abnormal, and perhaps delusional. Who does that with people they don't have any thoughts of fvcking? "Hmm, I'm bored. Where's my PSP? Damn. Hey maybe I''ll just let that guy stick his tongue in my mouth to pass the time instead". Right...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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