This is a general question that I was considering after some recent experiences. Is it better to let a girl wait after a good first experience before asking her out, or should I "strike while the iron is hot"? I know the conventional wisdom is to wait, to not seem too desperate or interested. At the same time, I have had girls lost interest in the delay between the first good experience and me asking them out. I think this is a particular risk with attractive women, as they get a LOT of offers and opportunities offered to them on a daily basis. Thoughts?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Make a girl wait, or strike when the iron is hot?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Alpha male- Care less
Beta male- Care ful
Answer? Read my sig.
This "risk" is with any woman. Fortune favors the bold. Men take charge. Boys wait and whine. Man or boy, which do you choose?
Case closed. Post your results.
Beta male- Care ful
Answer? Read my sig.
This "risk" is with any woman. Fortune favors the bold. Men take charge. Boys wait and whine. Man or boy, which do you choose?
Case closed. Post your results.
The "rule" to not contact for a few days is to stop needy guys going over the top with constantly trying to contact her. For experienced guys that know what they are doing, they should feel far more comfortable acting quickly whilst her interest level is high (but then, NOT showing signs of neediness).
If the girls interest level is certaintly high, then I'll usually call her quickly to set up a future meeting (scheduled at least a few days in the future, never today/tomorrow). If she was just a girl whos number I'd got without having a chance to build up much rapport, I tend to wait a few days first.
If the girls interest level is certaintly high, then I'll usually call her quickly to set up a future meeting (scheduled at least a few days in the future, never today/tomorrow). If she was just a girl whos number I'd got without having a chance to build up much rapport, I tend to wait a few days first.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
DJ SO STEVE
Don Juan
If the girl is interested in you after the first date, message her the next day to find out when she's free during the week and ask to meet up. If she makes time for you and shows enthusiasm she's interested, if she says she's not sure that means she is not interested and you should continue spinning plates.
Be sure to make some advancements on her though, because you don't want her to think of you as a friend.
Be sure to make some advancements on her though, because you don't want her to think of you as a friend.