This is a general question that I was considering after some recent experiences. Is it better to let a girl wait after a good first experience before asking her out, or should I "strike while the iron is hot"? I know the conventional wisdom is to wait, to not seem too desperate or interested. At the same time, I have had girls lost interest in the delay between the first good experience and me asking them out. I think this is a particular risk with attractive women, as they get a LOT of offers and opportunities offered to them on a daily basis. Thoughts?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Make a girl wait, or strike when the iron is hot?
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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This "risk" is with any woman. Fortune favors the bold. Men take charge. Boys wait and whine. Man or boy, which do you choose?
Case closed. Post your results.
Beta male- Care ful
Answer? Read my sig.
This "risk" is with any woman. Fortune favors the bold. Men take charge. Boys wait and whine. Man or boy, which do you choose?
Case closed. Post your results.
The "rule" to not contact for a few days is to stop needy guys going over the top with constantly trying to contact her. For experienced guys that know what they are doing, they should feel far more comfortable acting quickly whilst her interest level is high (but then, NOT showing signs of neediness).
If the girls interest level is certaintly high, then I'll usually call her quickly to set up a future meeting (scheduled at least a few days in the future, never today/tomorrow). If she was just a girl whos number I'd got without having a chance to build up much rapport, I tend to wait a few days first.
If the girls interest level is certaintly high, then I'll usually call her quickly to set up a future meeting (scheduled at least a few days in the future, never today/tomorrow). If she was just a girl whos number I'd got without having a chance to build up much rapport, I tend to wait a few days first.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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If the girl is interested in you after the first date, message her the next day to find out when she's free during the week and ask to meet up. If she makes time for you and shows enthusiasm she's interested, if she says she's not sure that means she is not interested and you should continue spinning plates.
Be sure to make some advancements on her though, because you don't want her to think of you as a friend.
Be sure to make some advancements on her though, because you don't want her to think of you as a friend.