This is a general question that I was considering after some recent experiences. Is it better to let a girl wait after a good first experience before asking her out, or should I "strike while the iron is hot"? I know the conventional wisdom is to wait, to not seem too desperate or interested. At the same time, I have had girls lost interest in the delay between the first good experience and me asking them out. I think this is a particular risk with attractive women, as they get a LOT of offers and opportunities offered to them on a daily basis. Thoughts?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Make a girl wait, or strike when the iron is hot?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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This "risk" is with any woman. Fortune favors the bold. Men take charge. Boys wait and whine. Man or boy, which do you choose?
Case closed. Post your results.
Beta male- Care ful
Answer? Read my sig.
This "risk" is with any woman. Fortune favors the bold. Men take charge. Boys wait and whine. Man or boy, which do you choose?
Case closed. Post your results.
The "rule" to not contact for a few days is to stop needy guys going over the top with constantly trying to contact her. For experienced guys that know what they are doing, they should feel far more comfortable acting quickly whilst her interest level is high (but then, NOT showing signs of neediness).
If the girls interest level is certaintly high, then I'll usually call her quickly to set up a future meeting (scheduled at least a few days in the future, never today/tomorrow). If she was just a girl whos number I'd got without having a chance to build up much rapport, I tend to wait a few days first.
If the girls interest level is certaintly high, then I'll usually call her quickly to set up a future meeting (scheduled at least a few days in the future, never today/tomorrow). If she was just a girl whos number I'd got without having a chance to build up much rapport, I tend to wait a few days first.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Don Juan
If the girl is interested in you after the first date, message her the next day to find out when she's free during the week and ask to meet up. If she makes time for you and shows enthusiasm she's interested, if she says she's not sure that means she is not interested and you should continue spinning plates.
Be sure to make some advancements on her though, because you don't want her to think of you as a friend.
Be sure to make some advancements on her though, because you don't want her to think of you as a friend.