"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Maintaining tension when away

popsickle

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Hello everyone,

To cut it short, I'm in college and this girl had been eyeing me for several months (I was busy with other girls, though) without me being really aware of it. Eventually, I went away from school for a few months (I live in another country) but visited for one week. During that week, I decided to go for it and we had s3x multiple nights.

She was giving me lots of attention after I left (also got confirmation from friends that she was inquiring about me), but of course after a few weeks, her attention is now fading away. I will be going back to school after NYE and I'd like to keep the tension going until then, to kind of take up where we left off.
I'm a bit confused on how to do that. Should I just go ghost until I go back?

Thanks in advance
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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devilkingx2

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" If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got"

that quote applies pretty well to everything

if she lost interest while you weren't giving her attention then give her more, if she lost interest while you were giving her attention then give her less,
 

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Very nicely written. post it contains useful information for me. I am happy to find your distinguished way of writing the post.
 

popsickle

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I feel like giving her more attention now would be counter productive if the mere distance made her lose interest in the first place, no?
 
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