Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
"Where do u live"Return with:
“Yeah, yeah, that’s what they all say!So how has this site been treating you so far? —Richard”
You can thank yours truly for that too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Should I say "bionic-ness" or say anything about bionic d1ck?“I live in downtown Williamsburg, with all the cool hippies. They love my bionic-ness. What about you, are you a Lower-east-side princess? “
^^^More crippled lameness from this stroke victim.Hush Naughty Ninja, he’s using my lines that you stole from me.
Alternatively to the first one, go with, "I live in UES Manhattan. I'm down in Orlando for two days taking care of a contract. It was easy. She hardly squealed.Should I say "bionic-ness" or say anything about bionic d1ck?
The other one messaged me back and said...
"I was on the fence about you because you are much younger"
What should I say to that?
The one who called me young said...Alternatively to the first one, go with, "I live in UES Manhattan. I'm down in Orlando for two days taking care of a contract. It was easy. She hardly squealed.What about you, what do you do for fun ?"
First one is about to drop, she ignored your question to her. Need to shock her a bit.
To the second, "Yeah, I heard that one before! It's you, who is too young for me princess.So, how has this site been treating you so far? --Richard"
"I know, I know, hundreds of matches, 99% 'winners.' I live in NY, in Orlando on business for couple days. I'm rarely on this site, so let's take our convo offline. Give me your number and I will text you and maybe we can meet for a drink =) Richard"The one who called me young said...
"I joined yesterday" and...
"I am baffled by the fact that there are any women on here"
"Everyone tries to talk about sex to me after like 30 seconds"
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Okay. I got a new match and she messaged me saying "Hello Steven" (fake name I use). What should I say?"I know, I know, hundreds of matches, 99% 'winners.' I live in NY, in Orlando on business for couple days. I'm rarely on this site, so let's take our convo offline. Give me your number and I will text you and maybe we can meet for a drink =) Richard"
Give her time to respond. Some respond 2-3 days later. Don't double e-mail.
You stud you.Okay. I got a new match and she messaged me saying "Hello Steven" (fake name I use). What should I say?
Okay 3rd one was an escort.You stud you.
Start with the go-to open:
Hey Veronica. I was going to right-swipe you earlier, but then I thought to myself, ‘Hmm, I don’t know about this one, she looks like trouble
You can thank yours truly for that open.
The second one gave me her number. What should I say on text? Surprisingly, her area code is a Tampa, FL area code.You see Richard, you’re just a bionic stud. Now work on those pics as I had described, and you’ll be fighting them off with your bionic stick.
You’re not insane. You just need women in your life.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm still going with insane, but I wish him luck!You see Richard, you’re just a bionic stud. Now work on those pics as I had described, and you’ll be fighting them off with your bionic stick.
You’re not insane. You just need women in your life.
Text her now, “Hi, it’s Richard from TinderThe second one gave me her number. What should I say on text? Surprisingly, her area code is a Tampa, FL area code.
Because you're a mental health professional and your opinion means so muchI'm still going with insane, but I wish him luck!
She said "Yeah"Text her now, “Hi, it’s Richard from TinderTampa area code, heh?”
I don't like one word answers. There is a certain level of presumptuousness in such a delivery. Here I would eject.She said "Yeah"
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.