I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"Where do u live"Return with:
“Yeah, yeah, that’s what they all say!So how has this site been treating you so far? —Richard”
You can thank yours truly for that too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Should I say "bionic-ness" or say anything about bionic d1ck?“I live in downtown Williamsburg, with all the cool hippies. They love my bionic-ness. What about you, are you a Lower-east-side princess? “
^^^More crippled lameness from this stroke victim.Hush Naughty Ninja, he’s using my lines that you stole from me.
Alternatively to the first one, go with, "I live in UES Manhattan. I'm down in Orlando for two days taking care of a contract. It was easy. She hardly squealed.Should I say "bionic-ness" or say anything about bionic d1ck?
The other one messaged me back and said...
"I was on the fence about you because you are much younger"
What should I say to that?
The one who called me young said...Alternatively to the first one, go with, "I live in UES Manhattan. I'm down in Orlando for two days taking care of a contract. It was easy. She hardly squealed.What about you, what do you do for fun ?"
First one is about to drop, she ignored your question to her. Need to shock her a bit.
To the second, "Yeah, I heard that one before! It's you, who is too young for me princess.So, how has this site been treating you so far? --Richard"
"I know, I know, hundreds of matches, 99% 'winners.' I live in NY, in Orlando on business for couple days. I'm rarely on this site, so let's take our convo offline. Give me your number and I will text you and maybe we can meet for a drink =) Richard"The one who called me young said...
"I joined yesterday" and...
"I am baffled by the fact that there are any women on here"
"Everyone tries to talk about sex to me after like 30 seconds"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Okay. I got a new match and she messaged me saying "Hello Steven" (fake name I use). What should I say?"I know, I know, hundreds of matches, 99% 'winners.' I live in NY, in Orlando on business for couple days. I'm rarely on this site, so let's take our convo offline. Give me your number and I will text you and maybe we can meet for a drink =) Richard"
Give her time to respond. Some respond 2-3 days later. Don't double e-mail.
You stud you.Okay. I got a new match and she messaged me saying "Hello Steven" (fake name I use). What should I say?
Okay 3rd one was an escort.You stud you.
Start with the go-to open:
Hey Veronica. I was going to right-swipe you earlier, but then I thought to myself, ‘Hmm, I don’t know about this one, she looks like trouble
You can thank yours truly for that open.
The second one gave me her number. What should I say on text? Surprisingly, her area code is a Tampa, FL area code.You see Richard, you’re just a bionic stud. Now work on those pics as I had described, and you’ll be fighting them off with your bionic stick.
You’re not insane. You just need women in your life.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I'm still going with insane, but I wish him luck!You see Richard, you’re just a bionic stud. Now work on those pics as I had described, and you’ll be fighting them off with your bionic stick.
You’re not insane. You just need women in your life.
Text her now, “Hi, it’s Richard from TinderThe second one gave me her number. What should I say on text? Surprisingly, her area code is a Tampa, FL area code.
Because you're a mental health professional and your opinion means so muchI'm still going with insane, but I wish him luck!
She said "Yeah"Text her now, “Hi, it’s Richard from TinderTampa area code, heh?”
I don't like one word answers. There is a certain level of presumptuousness in such a delivery. Here I would eject.She said "Yeah"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.