I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
"Where do u live"Return with:
“Yeah, yeah, that’s what they all say!So how has this site been treating you so far? —Richard”
You can thank yours truly for that too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Should I say "bionic-ness" or say anything about bionic d1ck?“I live in downtown Williamsburg, with all the cool hippies. They love my bionic-ness. What about you, are you a Lower-east-side princess? “
^^^More crippled lameness from this stroke victim.Hush Naughty Ninja, he’s using my lines that you stole from me.
Alternatively to the first one, go with, "I live in UES Manhattan. I'm down in Orlando for two days taking care of a contract. It was easy. She hardly squealed.Should I say "bionic-ness" or say anything about bionic d1ck?
The other one messaged me back and said...
"I was on the fence about you because you are much younger"
What should I say to that?
The one who called me young said...Alternatively to the first one, go with, "I live in UES Manhattan. I'm down in Orlando for two days taking care of a contract. It was easy. She hardly squealed.What about you, what do you do for fun ?"
First one is about to drop, she ignored your question to her. Need to shock her a bit.
To the second, "Yeah, I heard that one before! It's you, who is too young for me princess.So, how has this site been treating you so far? --Richard"
"I know, I know, hundreds of matches, 99% 'winners.' I live in NY, in Orlando on business for couple days. I'm rarely on this site, so let's take our convo offline. Give me your number and I will text you and maybe we can meet for a drink =) Richard"The one who called me young said...
"I joined yesterday" and...
"I am baffled by the fact that there are any women on here"
"Everyone tries to talk about sex to me after like 30 seconds"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Okay. I got a new match and she messaged me saying "Hello Steven" (fake name I use). What should I say?"I know, I know, hundreds of matches, 99% 'winners.' I live in NY, in Orlando on business for couple days. I'm rarely on this site, so let's take our convo offline. Give me your number and I will text you and maybe we can meet for a drink =) Richard"
Give her time to respond. Some respond 2-3 days later. Don't double e-mail.
You stud you.Okay. I got a new match and she messaged me saying "Hello Steven" (fake name I use). What should I say?
Okay 3rd one was an escort.You stud you.
Start with the go-to open:
Hey Veronica. I was going to right-swipe you earlier, but then I thought to myself, ‘Hmm, I don’t know about this one, she looks like trouble
You can thank yours truly for that open.
The second one gave me her number. What should I say on text? Surprisingly, her area code is a Tampa, FL area code.You see Richard, you’re just a bionic stud. Now work on those pics as I had described, and you’ll be fighting them off with your bionic stick.
You’re not insane. You just need women in your life.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I'm still going with insane, but I wish him luck!You see Richard, you’re just a bionic stud. Now work on those pics as I had described, and you’ll be fighting them off with your bionic stick.
You’re not insane. You just need women in your life.
Text her now, “Hi, it’s Richard from TinderThe second one gave me her number. What should I say on text? Surprisingly, her area code is a Tampa, FL area code.
Because you're a mental health professional and your opinion means so muchI'm still going with insane, but I wish him luck!
She said "Yeah"Text her now, “Hi, it’s Richard from TinderTampa area code, heh?”
I don't like one word answers. There is a certain level of presumptuousness in such a delivery. Here I would eject.She said "Yeah"
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.