LR - 112

[BPH]

A VERY active month...

This one isn't as special as some of the recent ones I posted about, but for the sake of keeping track, I'll toss it up anyway. If anybody's interested in seeing the conversation on Hinge to get her number, ask for it, and I'll put it together, but I don't feel like moving around and censoring pictures right now.

Alright, so this is a girl I matched with on Hinge about 2 weeks ago, and was one of the girls I was trying to plan dates with when I was dogsitting in Philly last week. The reason things didn't work out with her was that she was tired and decided she was going to go to bed early, and didn't feel like going out to meet me and grab drinks that night.

What she did feel like doing, however, was scrolling through my Instagram, telling me how hot I was, and sending me provocative videos of herself. She ended up being pretty forward, asking how big I was, complaining that she had been with her ex for years, and couldn't bear to deal with another 4-incher.

For some added context, she's Chinese and had been in America for a little over a year, so I'm thinking she didn't have a great grasp of what "normal" dating conversations looked like.

Anyway, nothing happened that weekend. We were supposed to get coffee, but it was inconvenient for both of us, so we set that aside and made plans for next weekend (this last Friday), where we pretty much spelled out that I'd be coming over to f*** her.

And that's what happened, but it was probably the strangest and most awkward experience I've had with a woman in a while, and some of you may get a kick out of this...

I arrived at her apartment, and she came downstairs to meet me at the door - didn't say a word. She led me to the elevator, still not saying anything, not even "hi". Once we got into the elevator, I straight up asked her if she talked, and she finally answered with a simple "yes". She led me to her apartment, which was very nice, on the upper floors of a high-rise. We took a shot of some Chinese liquor, and she's still avoidant, remarking about how this is "so awkward".

I try to lighten the mood by making some small talk, trying to ease her into things with some kissing - which, apparently, she doesn't like kissing, so that wasn't great. She keeps remarking about how awkward this is, and I tell her it's only awkward because she's making it awkward. Most of my questions she's answering with 1 or 2 words, and she's not really asking anything in return. After some very light making out, she gets up, invites me to the bedroom, and takes off her clothes before getting into bed. I join her and start fingering her to, again, try to ease her into the moment...but she also doesn't really enjoy that either. It seems like she wants to get to the point, so I join her, and we have sex for the first time.

Afterwards, she's still not much better, still pretty awkward and quiet. She pours us some more shots to try to loosen herself up, and this eventually works a little bit, as she starts opening up to me more in conversation. The problem is she doesn't seem to particularly "like" anything...

"What's your favorite position?"
"I don't know."
"What's your biggest turn on?"
"I don't know."
"What do you know?"

As I mentioned, she hasn't been living in America long, and doesn't particularly enjoy it. The last time she'd had sex was in October of last year, and apparently, I'm her first white guy, as she had only been with Asians previously. Her most recent ex had been cheating on her throughout most of her relationship, so she told me a story about how she drugged him and used a strap-on on him as revenge...

Yeah...I half-jokingly said, "You didn't drug me, did you?" to which she replied something along the lines of "No, no, no, he was cheating on me, which is why I did that."

We did end up going a second round, but after that she started getting tired and dozing off. I asked her if she would rather have the bed to herself, or whether I should spend the night, to which she replied: "I don't care". So I sat there for about 10-15 minutes before I decided that I'd prefer not to continue wasting more of my time, and got dressed to leave.

And it's a good thing I did, too. When I got back to the lot where my car was parked, I was greeted with a $200 ticket, because that particular lot was monitored by spotters who watched me leave, and then booted my car. If I had taken another half hour, my fee would've been doubled, and my car would've been towed. The joys of trying to park in the city...

So I drove home, texted her when I got home safe, and said it was nice to meet her (the latter part of which was a lie, for sure). She liked the message, and that was that.

Needless to say, I don't think I'll be revisiting her.

That was my Friday night, hope you guys enjoyed this mess.

 

[Prepostereax]

so the common-sense thing is "never stick your d!ck in crazy"
but damn, they make the best stories

 

[nicksaiz65]

Her most recent ex had been cheating on her throughout most of her relationship, so she told me a story about how she drugged him and used a strap-on on him as revenge...

I had to reread this to make sure I was comprehending it right

When I got back to the lot where my car was parked, I was greeted with a $200 ticket, because that particular lot was monitored by spotters who watched me leave, and then booted my car. If I had taken another half hour, my fee would've been doubled, and my car would've been towed. The joys of trying to park in the city...

Yeahhh… been there. IMO it’s not even worth it to try & skip the parking in the city. They ALWAYS boot or ticket. I think it’s best to just find the cheapest lot whenever you can

Hey, you got the lay though, so good riddance

 

[nicksaiz65]

Any luck on Tinder or Bumble lately? It seems like Hinge is the best dating app rn. The Tinder algo is so strict & picky it makes me not even want to use it tbh. It’s a complete pain lol

 

[BPH]

Yeahhh… been there. IMO it’s not even worth it to try & skip the parking in the city. They ALWAYS boot or ticket. I think it’s best to just find the cheapest lot whenever you can

There was a nearby lot, but it was only good until exactly 6AM, and I wasn't sure if I'd be spending the night, and knew that if I were there's no way I'd be up that early - especially if we're drinking. I didn't see any way to extend it or adjust the duration, since it was through an app, and after spending about half an hour looking for somewhere reasonably close to park, I thought a shopping center with a late-night gentlemen's club would work - but nope.

Any luck on Tinder or Bumble lately? It seems like Hinge is the best dating app rn. The Tinder algo is so strict & picky it makes me not even want to use it tbh. It’s a complete pain lol

Tinder was how I met the girl from my 108th LR, but aside from that, neither one is very great...

There was another girl from Tinder whom I was considering last weekend, but she doesn't drink and wanted to be taken to dinner for a first date. There are a few matches who messaged once a few weeks ago, but nothing since.

Bumble is worse. I had 4 or 5 matches last weekend, and ALL of the conversations expired because they said nothing. I matched with this hot older woman last weekend, who had the "independent bad b****" attitude. I made tentative plans with her for Monday since I was dogsitting in Philly that weekend. We had a text conversation that was going pretty well that Friday night. But at some point, she unfollowed me, unmatched me, and blocked me out of nowhere.

Hinge seems best right now because I think people take it more seriously, so it's more likely the people you match with are real. The fact that liking somebody notifies them and allows them to choose whether they like you back, as opposed to randomly swiping past potential matches, takes some of the guesswork out of it.

I've always stated that dating apps are good to have, but not to be relied on. My results from this past month are VERY atypical of a normal experience.

 

[Lauel]

I had to reread this to make sure I was comprehending it right

I went:
Uhm, strap-on... on... him... WHAT

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'm guessing she is still seeing him and you were "revenge" for something.

 

[BPH]

I'm guessing she is still seeing him and you were "revenge" for something.

I don't think so.

The extremely awkward way she approached the sex itself leads me to believe her when she says she hasn't had any in 7 months. She told me how she enjoys her vibrator because it's the only thing that's managed to bring her to orgasm once or twice in her life. In her words, it's "efficient" because it only takes 5 minutes, while sex takes longer.

I would imagine culture plays a major part in how this went.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Congratulations. You basically saw an escort and paid $200 for two sessions.

Joking aside, as a Hispanic person, I’ve always found East Asians to be different and, for lack of a better word, “odd.” Most people in my circle even have a joke that a man needs to sleep with an East Asian woman before getting married. Personally though, their demeanour has often come across to me as passionless and robotic. Maybe they just weren’t attracted to me, but the majority I’ve interacted with have fallen into that category.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don't think so.

The extremely awkward way she approached the sex itself leads me to believe her when she says she hasn't had any in 7 months. She told me how she enjoys her vibrator because it's the only thing that's managed to bring her to orgasm once or twice in her life. In her words, it's "efficient" because it only takes 5 minutes, while sex takes longer.

I would imagine culture plays a major part in how this went.

I give you credit for even being able to do anything with this one...I would have probably been so turned off I would have left.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Theres that saying more men would do well to remember

" If she's on a dating app and active theres always a reason "

Mentally stable women , without bad attitudes and ridiculous expectations are never on apps for long

 

[Bokanovsky]

Short version:

Weird Chinese foreign exchange student with a penchant for drugging her boyfriends so she could rape them with a strap-on wants to experience sex with a white guy. OP decides to oblige. The "date" is predictably weird. OP escapes with minor losses (a $200 parking ticket) but his strap-on virginity intact.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Congratulations. You basically saw an escort and paid $200 for two sessions.

Joking aside, as a Hispanic person, I’ve always found East Asians to be different and, for lack of a better word, “odd.” Most people in my circle even have a joke that a man needs to sleep with an East Asian woman before getting married. Personally though, their demeanour has often come across to me as passionless and robotic. Maybe they just weren’t attracted to me, but the majority I’ve interacted with have fallen into that category.

I dated one that used to get upset if I went for too long and didn't bust a load while I was actively still in full beast mode

She told me she felt she wasn't "good enough" or that I "didn't find her attractive enough" to cvm sooner.

Only women I've ever dated that actively complained about my stamina and got upset about it.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Congratulations. You basically saw an escort and paid $200 for two sessions.

Joking aside, as a Hispanic person, I’ve always found East Asians to be different and, for lack of a better word, “odd.” Most people in my circle even have a joke that a man needs to sleep with an East Asian woman before getting married. Personally though, their demeanour has often come across to me as passionless and robotic. Maybe they just weren’t attracted to me, but the majority I’ve interacted with have fallen into that category.

They tend to be rather inhibited. That's just part of their culture. Basically, the polar opposite of hispanics.

 

[craider]

This chick must have been smoking hot to go through with it. I would have worried about having my organs harvested.

 

[intricate design]

I would have hung out longer. Drank her liquor. Gave her a foot massage and made her talk more

sounds like you never even met her. id call her up again. Wonder why she lives in such a luxury apartment.

 

[BPH]

I would have hung out longer. Drank her liquor. Gave her a foot massage and made her talk more

sounds like you never even met her. id call her up again. Wonder why she lives in such a luxury apartment.

No. I wanted to be able to drive home.

Once it was clear that I had to carry EVERY part of the interaction, it became less fun and more of a chore.

I would have a better time hitting up my FWB who lives out in Philly, or just going out and meeting someone new.

 

[intricate design]

Yeah I hear ya

a woman I’m seeing is from China. she’s always on guard and secretive. Probably a spy and I would not doubt it, I’m still investigating

another is from Malaysia and we have great conversations, a very good connection. she has gold digger tendencies though

 

[craider]

bro you're dating a gold digger and a spy and giving out recommendations?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yeah I hear ya

a woman I’m seeing is from China. she’s always on guard and secretive. Probably a spy and I would not doubt it, I’m still investigating

another is from Malaysia and we have great conversations, a very good connection. she has gold digger tendencies though