"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Have'nt seen my plate for 3 weeks, so it's been 3 weeks since i've had a release. I feel powerful and masculine.
One night last week whilst i was half asleep in bed i could feel a lot of tension from my balls. I was..so tempted to just fap one off (i dont fap)

Plate told me a couple week ago she would sort something so we can see each other. I have'nt heard from her since then, so i'll wait for her to make the first move.
I'm currently looking online for a girl below my standards to get a quick release!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Have'nt seen my plate for 3 weeks, so it's been 3 weeks since i've had a release. I feel powerful and masculine.
One night last week whilst i was half asleep in bed i could feel a lot of tension from my balls. I was..so tempted to just fap one off (i dont fap)

Plate told me a couple week ago she would sort something so we can see each other. I have'nt heard from her since then, so i'll wait for her to make the first move.
I'm currently looking online for a girl below my standards to get a quick release!
That's arguable worse than fapping since you'll be screwing some chick up for the next guy, and diminishing yourself by only taking rather than giving. Tough it out and find someone up to your standards. If a release is all you're interested in then what's the point of a woman? Satisfying sex with a hottie whose company you enjoy and enjoy giving attention to is worth the wait.
 
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That's arguable worse than fapping since you'll be screwing some chick up for the next guy, and diminishing yourself by only taking rather than giving. Tough it out and find someone up to your standards. If a release is all you're interested in then what's the point of a woman? Satisfying sex with a hottie whose company you enjoy and enjoy giving attention to is worth the wait.
I'm curious what you mean by "only taking rather than giving."

If the woman is up for no-strings sex, what more should he be giving?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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That's arguable worse than fapping since you'll be screwing some chick up for the next guy, and diminishing yourself by only taking rather than giving. Tough it out and find someone up to your standards. If a release is all you're interested in then what's the point of a woman? Satisfying sex with a hottie whose company you enjoy and enjoy giving attention to is worth the wait.
I agree. I'm not banging a fat chick because that's all I can find. Screw that. Rather date my hand.
 

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I see you're from Texas. Do you like rap music? Slim Thug said, "I love pvssy, but I don't need it, baby." Always stuck with me and seems pertinent to the topic.
Yea i listen to some of his stuff. That's the right attitude.
 

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I agree. I'm not banging a fat chick because that's all I can find. Screw that. Rather date my hand.
If your going 3 months without sex you better fvck what you can get. Cause dry spells beget dry spells and fapping extends dry spells. You better find somewhere to temporarily rest your c0ck.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You should probably invest in some quality lube and get a proper release.
Too much buildup like that can make you come across as needy to women.
Once you have a plate of two on rotation, then you can stop fapping.
I wouldn't lower my standards for sex because low quality women play more head games.
 

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You should probably invest in some quality lube and get a proper release.
Too much buildup like that can make you come across as needy to women.
Once you have a plate of two on rotation, then you can stop fapping.
I dunno. Many on here say by not whacking off will build up your testosterone even more and make you approach more women and make you more motivated.
 

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I dunno. Many on here say by not whacking off will build up your testosterone even more and make you approach more women and make you more motivated.
It depends on how much testosterone your body produces everyday.
It's relative to your diet, sleep, exercise, and sex drive.
If you have a high sex drive, squeezing once a week won't affect you.
 
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I dunno. Many on here say by not whacking off will build up your testosterone even more and make you approach more women and make you more motivated.
Pretty sure it's been studied. Testosterone peaks between 7 and 10 days and then sees a decline.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Have'nt seen my plate for 3 weeks, so it's been 3 weeks since i've had a release. I feel powerful and masculine.
One night last week whilst i was half asleep in bed i could feel a lot of tension from my balls. I was..so tempted to just fap one off (i dont fap)

Plate told me a couple week ago she would sort something so we can see each other. I have'nt heard from her since then, so i'll wait for her to make the first move.
I'm currently looking online for a girl below my standards to get a quick release!
Dude, if you are not seeing your plate for weeks, you get another one in the meantime. Please, read the book of pook...
 

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In this day and age, more so when its in modern societies where women are more open to have sex, giving it out daily like its nobody's business, it's sad to see some men being hungry.

It pushes them into begging.

Some of them gets some pity fvck.

Most goes home hungry.

But almost all are just plain lazy to improve and get fed.

Then they think they do some no-feeding they get superpowers, become powerful, the delusions is amazing.
 

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In this day and age, more so when its in modern societies where women are more open to have sex, giving it out daily like its nobody's business, it's sad to see some men being hungry.

It pushes them into begging.

Some of them gets some pity fvck.

Most goes home hungry.

But almost all are just plain lazy to improve and get fed.

Then they think they do some no-feeding they get superpowers, become powerful, the delusions is amazing.
Yes, but so is da herp and other STDs. It's why I've been sticking to my two. It's a pain to bring another in. Though, one might need replacing soon. I shall see.
 

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I'm curious what you mean by "only taking rather than giving."

If the woman is up for no-strings sex, what more should he be giving?
Context is important. OP is prepared to conform his expectations to a false reality(that he can't seduce a woman up to his standards) instead of striving to make reality conform to his expectations(seducing who he wants). He would rather perpetuate a false confidence than tackle his insecurities because it seems easier to him. To the OP this sacrifice of self respect seems worth it. This is the exact opposite of a DJ mindset. He's stagnating and even receding in his personal growth.

OP is coming from a place of scarcity, weakness, and desperation, thats what I mean by taking, that's all he's focused on. That mindset breeds contempt. What he's actually doing is taking from himself.

If OP is prepared to hold his self respect and time to a higher value then he won't settle for 2s simply because he's horny. He should go out with the mentality that he'll find better, more available women wherever he goes. And if he's not there mentally(which it doesn't sound like he is) he should do the personal work to get there.

Too many guys distract themselves from inner work by settling for less than they deserve. Knowing that they're settling is what inevitably brings the house of cards crashing down.
 
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Context is important. OP is prepared to conform his expectations to a false reality(that he can't seduce a woman up to his standards) instead of striving to make reality conform to his expectations(seducing who he wants). He would rather perpetuate a false confidence than tackle his insecurities because it seems easier to him. To the OP this sacrifice of self respect seems worth it. This is the exact opposite of a DJ mindset. He's stagnating and even receding in his personal growth.
Well, you're assuming a lot about the OP, but a DJ mindset means fvck all if you're sitting around alone all the time. You're well spoken here, but you say nothing.

OP is coming from a place of scarcity, weakness, and desperation, thats what I mean by taking, that's all he's focused on. That mindset breeds contempt. What he's actually doing is taking from himself.
I asked you what more he should be giving. That's an odd idea of taking, you have. I thought you were going to say her sanctity or something. I would have respected that more, to be honest.

If OP is prepared to hold his self respect and time to a higher value then he won't settle for 2s simply because he's horny. He should go out with the mentality that he'll find better, more available women wherever he goes. And if he's not there mentally(which it doesn't sound like he is) he should do the personal work to get there.
You're assuming he's banging 2s.

Too many guys distract themselves from inner work by settling for less than they deserve. Knowing that they're settling is what inevitably brings the house of cards crashing down.
Too many guys focus on theory, and inner game, rather than getting out and making an effort with women.

It's easy to quote self-help books and preach about inner strength, but that isn't actually helping anyone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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