"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Loves Me But is Afraid of a Broken Heart...

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Dude, yu are going to end up really jealous if you let this continue. I know it is hard, but let go when you can, unless you are more the Forest Gump type.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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wait a second, did she cheat on you ?

i thought she loved you but was putting you off because she was scared of getting hurt.

now im suppose to understand there was cheating too?

if so, wtf man? you are getting played. BIG time. your gf is not suppose to love you and be too afraid of committment because of fear and then go cheat on you. that means she fears committment because she knows she isnt going to be faithful. perhaps she is still sampling variety , who knows?

if it was me, id move on and find someone faithful. being single is still better than being cheated on to me.
 

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Originally posted by penkitten
wait a second, did she cheat on you ?

i thought she loved you but was putting you off because she was scared of getting hurt.

now im suppose to understand there was cheating too?

if so, wtf man? you are getting played. BIG time. your gf is not suppose to love you and be too afraid of committment because of fear and then go cheat on you. that means she fears committment because she knows she isnt going to be faithful. perhaps she is still sampling variety , who knows?

if it was me, id move on and find someone faithful. being single is still better than being cheated on to me.
ditto.
 

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i didnt mean to sound mean
its just that i hate it when someone plays on someone else.
 

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Originally posted by penkitten
i didnt mean to sound mean
its just that i hate it when someone plays on someone else.
meaniehead...:p
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by guambombO
New Problem**********************************


Well, in the past she made out with this college dude. I guess she is going clubbing with this guy this weekend and was really hesitent about telling me. I asked her about it and if i could trust her and she said she didnt know. She said that she didnt trust herself. I dont know what to do guys. I love her and I want to stay with her but at the same time I cant handle this, it isnt fair for me. What should i do????
Break up with this hussy. Scrape that, she ain't a hussy, she's simply not interested in you anymore.
 

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Well, im gonna bring it up tonight and see how it goes. Its so hard to do but suppose I can try one last time. I just dont know how im gonna be able to stay friends with her since we see eachother everyday. Wish me luck!
 

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good job. and dont look back... besides "falling in love" is a no no when you're this young. that's why you try to get as many girls as you can right now and have fun. you can't get hurt because you have back ups =) plus girls'll want you more when other girls are interested you as well.
 

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It's cliche cus everyone says it but everyone says it cus its true: what hurts but doesn't kill you makes you stronger
 

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Lol, well It turns out she still doesnt believe that I love her. Says that she doesnt want to be ina false relationship. She said she loves me but when I say it its just in my head, not for real. She still wants to be good friends but I dont want this, I want to be with her. I dont know what to do, I leave for hawaii tomorrow and I wanna keep her interest level up if any.....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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have some one take picures of you with some islander hottie.
get them developed and have her sign it "had a good time, dont forget me."

pay her five bucks if you have to.

bring it back and accidently on purpose let her see it.

make her jealous.
 

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Okay. Well first of all, I'm going to say it's kinda sad that when she told you she loves you you don't tell her you love her back. whenever I'm around my girlfriend and she says "I love you." I look at her for a second, hold her hand in mine, tell her "I love you too." and kiss her. when she told you her feelings you acted very coldly. as for her not wanting to be intimate with you anymore, take her to the park, sit down with her, and talk to her and try to comfort, understand, and give advice for whatever it is she's having trouble with. I took a look at another post and noticed you said you say you love her, but you don't mean it. clearly this means you're tired of her. if you like her, you'd know. seeing as how you DON'T you'd might as well end the relationship because it is NOT working out. Finally, I'm no professional, so my advice may not be the best, I'm just going on logic.
 

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Hey guys,

I guess we're back to stage one again. She feels that since I didnt call her everyday in Hawaii my committment is crap. So she says shes ending it now and I truly believe it. I love this girl to death but im out of ideas. I Know im not tired of her, im tired of working so hard to convince her that I love her. If I dont act now I may lose her for good once she puts up her wall.
 

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Originally posted by AC/DC
Often times this is due to trauma. You need to make her feel comfortable. Don't emphasize anything in particular. Make her happy with you, stop holding hands or doing whatever. Still kick it really often tho, and make her laugh lots. You need her to reach her comfort level.
That's the best advice for this situation.

Don't say you love her, just show that you truly care via actions.

As the saying goes actions are valued, not words.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by guambombO
New Problem**********************************


Well, in the past she made out with this college dude. I guess she is going clubbing with this guy this weekend and was really hesitent about telling me. I asked her about it and if i could trust her and she said she didnt know. She said that she didnt trust herself. I dont know what to do guys. I love her and I want to stay with her but at the same time I cant handle this, it isnt fair for me. What should i do????
This is going too far.

Wake up man. You might love her, but she is playing with your emotions big time.

This chich is too much of a headache to keep around man, too many games. You deserve better then that.

It might be against all good judgement for you because your emotions are clouding it, but you need to next this girl.
 
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