wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Dude, yu are going to end up really jealous if you let this continue. I know it is hard, but let go when you can, unless you are more the Forest Gump type.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ditto.Originally posted by penkitten
wait a second, did she cheat on you ?
i thought she loved you but was putting you off because she was scared of getting hurt.
now im suppose to understand there was cheating too?
if so, wtf man? you are getting played. BIG time. your gf is not suppose to love you and be too afraid of committment because of fear and then go cheat on you. that means she fears committment because she knows she isnt going to be faithful. perhaps she is still sampling variety , who knows?
if it was me, id move on and find someone faithful. being single is still better than being cheated on to me.
meaniehead...Originally posted by penkitten
i didnt mean to sound mean
its just that i hate it when someone plays on someone else.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Break up with this hussy. Scrape that, she ain't a hussy, she's simply not interested in you anymore.Originally posted by guambombO
New Problem**********************************
Well, in the past she made out with this college dude. I guess she is going clubbing with this guy this weekend and was really hesitent about telling me. I asked her about it and if i could trust her and she said she didnt know. She said that she didnt trust herself. I dont know what to do guys. I love her and I want to stay with her but at the same time I cant handle this, it isnt fair for me. What should i do????
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's the best advice for this situation.Originally posted by AC/DC
Often times this is due to trauma. You need to make her feel comfortable. Don't emphasize anything in particular. Make her happy with you, stop holding hands or doing whatever. Still kick it really often tho, and make her laugh lots. You need her to reach her comfort level.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
This is going too far.Originally posted by guambombO
New Problem**********************************
Well, in the past she made out with this college dude. I guess she is going clubbing with this guy this weekend and was really hesitent about telling me. I asked her about it and if i could trust her and she said she didnt know. She said that she didnt trust herself. I dont know what to do guys. I love her and I want to stay with her but at the same time I cant handle this, it isnt fair for me. What should i do????