wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Dude, yu are going to end up really jealous if you let this continue. I know it is hard, but let go when you can, unless you are more the Forest Gump type.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Loves Me But is Afraid of a Broken Heart...
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
wait a second, did she cheat on you ?
i thought she loved you but was putting you off because she was scared of getting hurt.
now im suppose to understand there was cheating too?
if so, wtf man? you are getting played. BIG time. your gf is not suppose to love you and be too afraid of committment because of fear and then go cheat on you. that means she fears committment because she knows she isnt going to be faithful. perhaps she is still sampling variety , who knows?
if it was me, id move on and find someone faithful. being single is still better than being cheated on to me.
i thought she loved you but was putting you off because she was scared of getting hurt.
now im suppose to understand there was cheating too?
if so, wtf man? you are getting played. BIG time. your gf is not suppose to love you and be too afraid of committment because of fear and then go cheat on you. that means she fears committment because she knows she isnt going to be faithful. perhaps she is still sampling variety , who knows?
if it was me, id move on and find someone faithful. being single is still better than being cheated on to me.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
ditto.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i didnt mean to sound mean
its just that i hate it when someone plays on someone else.
its just that i hate it when someone plays on someone else.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
meaniehead...
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bloke
Senior Don Juan
Break up with this hussy. Scrape that, she ain't a hussy, she's simply not interested in you anymore.
good job. and dont look back... besides "falling in love" is a no no when you're this young. that's why you try to get as many girls as you can right now and have fun. you can't get hurt because you have back ups =) plus girls'll want you more when other girls are interested you as well.
Lol, well It turns out she still doesnt believe that I love her. Says that she doesnt want to be ina false relationship. She said she loves me but when I say it its just in my head, not for real. She still wants to be good friends but I dont want this, I want to be with her. I dont know what to do, I leave for hawaii tomorrow and I wanna keep her interest level up if any.....
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
have some one take picures of you with some islander hottie.
get them developed and have her sign it "had a good time, dont forget me."
pay her five bucks if you have to.
bring it back and accidently on purpose let her see it.
make her jealous.
get them developed and have her sign it "had a good time, dont forget me."
pay her five bucks if you have to.
bring it back and accidently on purpose let her see it.
make her jealous.
MightyMate
Master Don Juan
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If she loves then she will have broken heart anyways. So its bollox. There must be some oither guy there.
Okay. Well first of all, I'm going to say it's kinda sad that when she told you she loves you you don't tell her you love her back. whenever I'm around my girlfriend and she says "I love you." I look at her for a second, hold her hand in mine, tell her "I love you too." and kiss her. when she told you her feelings you acted very coldly. as for her not wanting to be intimate with you anymore, take her to the park, sit down with her, and talk to her and try to comfort, understand, and give advice for whatever it is she's having trouble with. I took a look at another post and noticed you said you say you love her, but you don't mean it. clearly this means you're tired of her. if you like her, you'd know. seeing as how you DON'T you'd might as well end the relationship because it is NOT working out. Finally, I'm no professional, so my advice may not be the best, I'm just going on logic.
Hey guys,
I guess we're back to stage one again. She feels that since I didnt call her everyday in Hawaii my committment is crap. So she says shes ending it now and I truly believe it. I love this girl to death but im out of ideas. I Know im not tired of her, im tired of working so hard to convince her that I love her. If I dont act now I may lose her for good once she puts up her wall.
I guess we're back to stage one again. She feels that since I didnt call her everyday in Hawaii my committment is crap. So she says shes ending it now and I truly believe it. I love this girl to death but im out of ideas. I Know im not tired of her, im tired of working so hard to convince her that I love her. If I dont act now I may lose her for good once she puts up her wall.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is going too far.
Wake up man. You might love her, but she is playing with your emotions big time.
This chich is too much of a headache to keep around man, too many games. You deserve better then that.
It might be against all good judgement for you because your emotions are clouding it, but you need to next this girl.