"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dude, yu are going to end up really jealous if you let this continue. I know it is hard, but let go when you can, unless you are more the Forest Gump type.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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penkitten

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wait a second, did she cheat on you ?

i thought she loved you but was putting you off because she was scared of getting hurt.

now im suppose to understand there was cheating too?

if so, wtf man? you are getting played. BIG time. your gf is not suppose to love you and be too afraid of committment because of fear and then go cheat on you. that means she fears committment because she knows she isnt going to be faithful. perhaps she is still sampling variety , who knows?

if it was me, id move on and find someone faithful. being single is still better than being cheated on to me.
 

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Originally posted by penkitten
wait a second, did she cheat on you ?

i thought she loved you but was putting you off because she was scared of getting hurt.

now im suppose to understand there was cheating too?

if so, wtf man? you are getting played. BIG time. your gf is not suppose to love you and be too afraid of committment because of fear and then go cheat on you. that means she fears committment because she knows she isnt going to be faithful. perhaps she is still sampling variety , who knows?

if it was me, id move on and find someone faithful. being single is still better than being cheated on to me.
ditto.
 

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i didnt mean to sound mean
its just that i hate it when someone plays on someone else.
 

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Originally posted by penkitten
i didnt mean to sound mean
its just that i hate it when someone plays on someone else.
meaniehead...:p
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bloke

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Originally posted by guambombO
New Problem**********************************


Well, in the past she made out with this college dude. I guess she is going clubbing with this guy this weekend and was really hesitent about telling me. I asked her about it and if i could trust her and she said she didnt know. She said that she didnt trust herself. I dont know what to do guys. I love her and I want to stay with her but at the same time I cant handle this, it isnt fair for me. What should i do????
Break up with this hussy. Scrape that, she ain't a hussy, she's simply not interested in you anymore.
 

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Well, im gonna bring it up tonight and see how it goes. Its so hard to do but suppose I can try one last time. I just dont know how im gonna be able to stay friends with her since we see eachother everyday. Wish me luck!
 

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good job. and dont look back... besides "falling in love" is a no no when you're this young. that's why you try to get as many girls as you can right now and have fun. you can't get hurt because you have back ups =) plus girls'll want you more when other girls are interested you as well.
 

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It's cliche cus everyone says it but everyone says it cus its true: what hurts but doesn't kill you makes you stronger
 

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Lol, well It turns out she still doesnt believe that I love her. Says that she doesnt want to be ina false relationship. She said she loves me but when I say it its just in my head, not for real. She still wants to be good friends but I dont want this, I want to be with her. I dont know what to do, I leave for hawaii tomorrow and I wanna keep her interest level up if any.....
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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have some one take picures of you with some islander hottie.
get them developed and have her sign it "had a good time, dont forget me."

pay her five bucks if you have to.

bring it back and accidently on purpose let her see it.

make her jealous.
 

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Okay. Well first of all, I'm going to say it's kinda sad that when she told you she loves you you don't tell her you love her back. whenever I'm around my girlfriend and she says "I love you." I look at her for a second, hold her hand in mine, tell her "I love you too." and kiss her. when she told you her feelings you acted very coldly. as for her not wanting to be intimate with you anymore, take her to the park, sit down with her, and talk to her and try to comfort, understand, and give advice for whatever it is she's having trouble with. I took a look at another post and noticed you said you say you love her, but you don't mean it. clearly this means you're tired of her. if you like her, you'd know. seeing as how you DON'T you'd might as well end the relationship because it is NOT working out. Finally, I'm no professional, so my advice may not be the best, I'm just going on logic.
 

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Hey guys,

I guess we're back to stage one again. She feels that since I didnt call her everyday in Hawaii my committment is crap. So she says shes ending it now and I truly believe it. I love this girl to death but im out of ideas. I Know im not tired of her, im tired of working so hard to convince her that I love her. If I dont act now I may lose her for good once she puts up her wall.
 

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Originally posted by AC/DC
Often times this is due to trauma. You need to make her feel comfortable. Don't emphasize anything in particular. Make her happy with you, stop holding hands or doing whatever. Still kick it really often tho, and make her laugh lots. You need her to reach her comfort level.
That's the best advice for this situation.

Don't say you love her, just show that you truly care via actions.

As the saying goes actions are valued, not words.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by guambombO
New Problem**********************************


Well, in the past she made out with this college dude. I guess she is going clubbing with this guy this weekend and was really hesitent about telling me. I asked her about it and if i could trust her and she said she didnt know. She said that she didnt trust herself. I dont know what to do guys. I love her and I want to stay with her but at the same time I cant handle this, it isnt fair for me. What should i do????
This is going too far.

Wake up man. You might love her, but she is playing with your emotions big time.

This chich is too much of a headache to keep around man, too many games. You deserve better then that.

It might be against all good judgement for you because your emotions are clouding it, but you need to next this girl.
 
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