wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Dude, yu are going to end up really jealous if you let this continue. I know it is hard, but let go when you can, unless you are more the Forest Gump type.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
ditto.Originally posted by penkitten
wait a second, did she cheat on you ?
i thought she loved you but was putting you off because she was scared of getting hurt.
now im suppose to understand there was cheating too?
if so, wtf man? you are getting played. BIG time. your gf is not suppose to love you and be too afraid of committment because of fear and then go cheat on you. that means she fears committment because she knows she isnt going to be faithful. perhaps she is still sampling variety , who knows?
if it was me, id move on and find someone faithful. being single is still better than being cheated on to me.
meaniehead...Originally posted by penkitten
i didnt mean to sound mean
its just that i hate it when someone plays on someone else.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Break up with this hussy. Scrape that, she ain't a hussy, she's simply not interested in you anymore.Originally posted by guambombO
New Problem**********************************
Well, in the past she made out with this college dude. I guess she is going clubbing with this guy this weekend and was really hesitent about telling me. I asked her about it and if i could trust her and she said she didnt know. She said that she didnt trust herself. I dont know what to do guys. I love her and I want to stay with her but at the same time I cant handle this, it isnt fair for me. What should i do????
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's the best advice for this situation.Originally posted by AC/DC
Often times this is due to trauma. You need to make her feel comfortable. Don't emphasize anything in particular. Make her happy with you, stop holding hands or doing whatever. Still kick it really often tho, and make her laugh lots. You need her to reach her comfort level.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This is going too far.Originally posted by guambombO
New Problem**********************************
Well, in the past she made out with this college dude. I guess she is going clubbing with this guy this weekend and was really hesitent about telling me. I asked her about it and if i could trust her and she said she didnt know. She said that she didnt trust herself. I dont know what to do guys. I love her and I want to stay with her but at the same time I cant handle this, it isnt fair for me. What should i do????