picard
Master Don Juan
Has anyone lost interest in dating women because your job taking away all your energy? The job might demand too much of your time that you just lost interest all together.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It is only frustrating if you make it frustrating. The game is not frustrating to me because once you learn to play it, then you will see that it is not frustrating at all. It is actually fun but you know what is not fun. When you have to deal with the side effects of when you are in an LTR that you get all these girls coming at you from all sides wanting your time. They will hit on you and try to validate themselves to you. It is sick. Just sick how many women per week try and validate themselves to me. I laugh at their attempts because of the fact that I am in an LTR. I once thought like you did that it was frustrating. How can women act like this? I always asked myself. I then realized after coming to this site that women have a different kind of logic and you must accept it and move on. otherwise it will eat you alive.Originally posted by Jamo
I kinda of really wish for this to happen to me. It would remove one hell of an extremely frustrating part of my life. I would kill to actually lose the interest itself for at least a year so I can put all this wasted energy into something that will build me up.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.