picard
Master Don Juan
Has anyone lost interest in dating women because your job taking away all your energy? The job might demand too much of your time that you just lost interest all together.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It is only frustrating if you make it frustrating. The game is not frustrating to me because once you learn to play it, then you will see that it is not frustrating at all. It is actually fun but you know what is not fun. When you have to deal with the side effects of when you are in an LTR that you get all these girls coming at you from all sides wanting your time. They will hit on you and try to validate themselves to you. It is sick. Just sick how many women per week try and validate themselves to me. I laugh at their attempts because of the fact that I am in an LTR. I once thought like you did that it was frustrating. How can women act like this? I always asked myself. I then realized after coming to this site that women have a different kind of logic and you must accept it and move on. otherwise it will eat you alive.Originally posted by Jamo
I kinda of really wish for this to happen to me. It would remove one hell of an extremely frustrating part of my life. I would kill to actually lose the interest itself for at least a year so I can put all this wasted energy into something that will build me up.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.