"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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donjuan332

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ever since i broke it off with my ex i has lost confidence in everything. my looks, approaching and socializing with women, i mean everything.i wont even talk to attractive women. will i wake up one day and be there again? its been about a month since we broke. i had confidence before her so i dunno whats happened. im lost
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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EBickford

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you miss her. im kinda in the same boat. i miss my ex

i feel pretty lost, and nothing makes sense. like the only thing that would make you happy is seeing her smile as she walks into the room.

i dont have a problem talking to anyone or approaching women, but i do have that "room full of people, but still feel alone" feeling, and that one where you cant see any girl as worth it as your ex.


im definitely not through it, far from it actually. just try to improve yourself, that has helped me. not just improve with women, everything.

oh and keep a journal. it really helps the chaos in your mind if you put it on paper(or typed). kinda like sorting it all out.
 

donjuan332

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i just reread what i typed and i sound kinda drunk, which i am...thks man
 

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it takes six months to a year. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
 
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