"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Lost 40 Pounds (18 kg) - picture (opinions/critiques welcome)

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When my LTR ended in June, I hated what I saw in the mirror. It took me a bit, but I re-joined the gym in December, and have lost 40 pounds (18 kg). When I started the LTR, I was 40 pounds lighter, so I'm really just back where I was. I also learned to cook.

http://imgur.com/a/PvGu5

Before exercise: none

After exercise: 5 to 6 days a week. 30 minutes of high-intensity cardio and 60 minutes of weight training, typically rotating upper and lower body.

Before diet: mostly fast food. I also drank a lot of beer.

After diet:

Morning: 3-eggs omelette with fresh cooked vegetables.
Afternoon: Protein bar if I'm hungry before lunch. For lunch itself, I'll either have leftovers from dinner, or a protein bar dipped in high-protein yogurt (Oikos triple-zero).
*GYM*
Post-gym: Protein shake, including whey and creatine.
Evening: Meat, typically chicken, fish, or beef seared in a cast-iron skillet. Frozen vegetables (the steam in the bag kind). Once or twice a week I'll include a light starch, like plain brown rice or low-carb tortillas.

No alcohol, aside from maybe a single beer on a date. I no longer drink alone. Mostly just water and occasionally a diet soda. Any thoughts are welcome. I think my shoulders need more work.

Thanks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You look much, much better. Congrats on the hard work and dedication it took you to get here.

You are about 17-18% bf; once you get below 15%, you will see traces of your abs, and at 10% full abs.

It's hard to tell you how to symmetrize, as you are still carrying some fat.

What is your height and weight?
 

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Thanks!

I'm 6'1" and currently 184 pounds (185.4 cm and 83.5 kg).
 

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I'm currently 6'1, 187 lbs., 11% bf, perfect symmetry.

I have been 210, 10% bf and also 165, 10% bf. I find my current weight and bf% to be ideal for attracting the largest pool of hot women.

At 6'1, 184 lbs, if you lost another 10 lbs. of fat and gained 10 lbs of muscle, you would be 184 lbs, 10-12%bf. Estimated time frame to achieve this is one year naturally.

Edit: Your weight changed, and so did my recommendation.
 
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Sorry, typed it wrong lol

So how can I measure my body fat?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When my LTR ended in June, I hated what I saw in the mirror. It took me a bit, but I re-joined the gym in December, and have lost 40 pounds (18 kg). When I started the LTR, I was 40 pounds lighter, so I'm really just back where I was. I also learned to cook.

http://imgur.com/a/PvGu5

Before exercise: none

After exercise: 5 to 6 days a week. 30 minutes of high-intensity cardio and 60 minutes of weight training, typically rotating upper and lower body.

Before diet: mostly fast food. I also drank a lot of beer.

After diet:

Morning: 3-eggs omelette with fresh cooked vegetables.
Afternoon: Protein bar if I'm hungry before lunch. For lunch itself, I'll either have leftovers from dinner, or a protein bar dipped in high-protein yogurt (Oikos triple-zero).
*GYM*
Post-gym: Protein shake, including whey and creatine.
Evening: Meat, typically chicken, fish, or beef seared in a cast-iron skillet. Frozen vegetables (the steam in the bag kind). Once or twice a week I'll include a light starch, like plain brown rice or low-carb tortillas.

No alcohol, aside from maybe a single beer on a date. I no longer drink alone. Mostly just water and occasionally a diet soda. Any thoughts are welcome. I think my shoulders need more work.

Thanks.
Well done, bro. You look clean and lean.
 

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WOW! you totally went from not to hot, from dad to bad (ass) :)
in all seriousness, you weren't bad looking when you were heavier, but you look amazing! Great Job!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thanks! Feels good to hear encouraging words. Gotta keep at it!
 

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Good work. You can really tell the difference.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Good job losing the weight, what look are you trying to achieve tho? You've gone from being heavier with no muscle to being skinny with no muscle. If you are looking to build muscle, I'd advise you to revisit your training/diet because it's clearly not working effectively for that. If you are just looking to hit a body weight, or be skinnier then congrats on achieving that.
 

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Good job losing the weight, what look are you trying to achieve tho? You've gone from being heavier with no muscle to being skinny with no muscle. If you are looking to build muscle, I'd advise you to revisit your training/diet because it's clearly not working effectively for that. If you are just looking to hit a body weight, or be skinnier then congrats on achieving that.
Thanks for the feedback. I am trying to build muscle while slimming down from being the fatty I was. This is only three months of progress, so I realize I've got a ways to go in regards to lowering my body fat. I haven't slowed down and don't plan to.

I've added fish oil to my daily supplements. If you have any suggestions, I'm more than open. Thanks.
 

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Thanks for the feedback. I am trying to build muscle while slimming down from being the fatty I was. This is only three months of progress, so I realize I've got a ways to go in regards to lowering my body fat. I haven't slowed down and don't plan to.

I've added fish oil to my daily supplements. If you have any suggestions, I'm more than open. Thanks.
Diet is 80%. Starve the fat. Feed the muscle.
 

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You are about 18% bodyfat.

Yoi cant really build muscle on a cut, but keep lifting to maintain what you do have.

Keep cutting down to 10-12% (should take you 12-14 weeks) then start a lean bulking phase for at least a year.

Oh, also please figure out your caloric requirements and nutrition partitioning. That diet pains me to look at.

Outside of that great job man.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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