Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What's at the top
pushpull lines and cold reads
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Of course I do not believe that. She's with him because of extremely high-status. When a man is a billionaire, he can have an endless supply of women so long as his Johnson works.
First mention of “not hot”.
Yes, there is a difference. And one doesn't have to be incredibly tall and handsome to get women. I'm only 5'10" and have been called handsome, though I'm well aware I am not striking. My physique, as shown in an old photo post-contest in my avatar, is above average.
Second mention of them not being gorgeous, which is besides the point because women who are "5s" and "6s" have more sexual power than most men. And I suspect nearly all men lurking and posting on this forum would gladly go for these women if invited by them, and they know it. With all the sexual selection these 5's and 6's have available, including access to good looking and high-status men considering their positions (female lawyer, prison governor), they went for those featured men. Besides these examples I provided I have my own real-life observation anyway.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
And I'm glad it works this way.
My experience has simply made me realize that many women can't separate the concept of having a well-rounded but respectful man from a ****ty man who's aggressive and punishes her when she makes mistakes.
I think the problem is a man that is too respectful can come off to a women be a yes man/nice guy who is weak underneath. They are looking for strength in some form.
Eh, I've seen lots of women with overweight men. I don't mean big sloppy guys. I'm talking about guys who are big and husky, but they have a bit of a gut on them. Built like a small defensive end. So they're tall, look strong, and look like they can protect her. Don't necessarily need to have a six pack to attract women.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That’s not fat though. That’s masculine. I know what you mean. Maybe I should have been more specific. I’m talking about, not athletic , just fat. Your example looks ambitious my example is a slob and that means lazy.
My example isn't ambitious necessarily, just physically strong, or strong looking. But I take your meaning.
Continued.Of course I do not believe that. She's with him because of extremely high-status. When a man is a billionaire, he can have an endless supply of women so long as his Johnson works.
First mention of “not hot”.
Yes, there is a difference. And one doesn't have to be incredibly tall and handsome to get women. I'm only 5'10" and have been called handsome, though I'm well aware I am not striking. My physique, as shown in an old photo post-contest in my avatar, is above average.
Second mention of them not being gorgeous, which is besides the point because women who are "5s" and "6s" have more sexual power than most men. And I suspect nearly all men lurking and posting on this forum would gladly go for these women if invited by them, and they know it. With all the sexual selection these 5's and 6's have available, including access to good looking and high-status men considering their positions (female lawyer, prison governor), they went for those featured men. Besides these examples I provided I have my own real-life observation anyway.
Backed up by research.
Scientific Blackpill
The Scientific Blackpill is about understanding the nature of human social and sexual behavior with a particular focus on evolutionary psychological perspectives...incels.wiki
And how do you show it?
Some people are just damaged.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How many have you met?
Violent men can have a moral compass
We all live in a very damaged culture in the west
It doesn't help when different people will have vastly different ideas of what is healthy and what isn't.
Very wise words
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.