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as a woman, how do you feel about a young dude in his 20s who is well accomplished, good looking, smart, fit as ****, and as mature as a well developed 40 year old? I want to know how big of an advantage i have over dudes my age ;)
All depends on the woman but I’d say it’s a big advantage if you have your shjt together head and shoulders above your peers in your 20s. It should help you attract objectively better quality women. Just don’t be entirely arrogant about it. Confidence is good, arrogance is try hard.

As for me personally I don’t give men younger than 40 the time of day really beyond being friends. Not because the men don’t make overtures but because I’ve no interest in getting involved with someone substantially younger, lol. I’ll keep the older playboys thank you very much lmao.
 

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Gold! I have also noticed this paradox. Looks are very subjective to women, but yet objective. Women are very idiosyncratic about the guys they find attractive yet there is still a universal standard. Weird huh
Coming From vast of my dating experience and observer of dating market, looks always trumps deep pockets anyday. Its going like this in order. Its primal even for men.

1. Height ~an entfy level of qualitfication.. this is a qualifier.
2. Fitness ~ an added advantages.
3. Face ~ need i say more? Good jawline, hair, hunter eye.. This Plus all 2 above Its a god mode in dating. You may lose but you will rise again in no time.

Life isnt fair..
 

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I wouldnt mind, but then I see some of the guys they've given P sleeve to, and they're far from chads, with no game whatsoever.
True.. Not denying its a fact that admiration and respect plays big role, for most of girl sadly it isnt.. Entitled to simp provision have rise standard of our species (man) to force an absurd level of perfectionist in women.

It isnt chad to blame really.. Its the simps.
 

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Coming From vast of my dating experience and observer of dating market, looks always trumps deep pockets anyday. Its going like this in order. Its primal even for men.

1. Height ~an entfy level of qualitfication.. this is a qualifier.
2. Fitness ~ an added advantages.
3. Face ~ need i say more? Good jawline, hair, hunter eye.. This Plus all 2 above Its a god mode in dating. You may lose but you will rise again in no time.

Life isnt fair..
Face>Height. Otherwise I’d be a virgin.
 

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My fitness matters to me.

I want a low enough body fat percent to see shredded 8 pack.

Not with down lighting, but normally.

I want to admire those muscles in my body.

I wanna flex and look like a greek god

I like being clean and hygienic.

I trim my hair, I apply lotion and oil and keep myself groomed.

I like looking the best I can.

I eat great food, the best nutrition money can afford.

They matter to me BUT fvck what women prefer.
This what selflove looks like.
This is what holding yourself in high regard and high respect looks like. Well done darksprezzatura, appreciate your leading example.

I also eat great food, the best nutrition money can buy. I also prioritise cleanliness and hygiene.

My goal is longevity with quality health and energy all along.
 

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What about race?
Each race has it own preference, my personal take, if they have choices, women always go for a higher level than themselves.. Ie.. Asian - > white, its more about image even they are no shlt themself if it made them feel better..

Self confidence higher emotional level women are looking for the same level as she is, no matter which race, whatever cost.
 

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Looks get you in the door, frame and attitude decide how long you stay. Regarding who decides you stay, the decision to terminate the relationship, whatever it may be, can be yours or hers. If your frame/attidude is weak/sux, she will ditch you. If your frame is strong, she be more likely to keep you, but you may end up ditching her cuz you are tired of her sh|t and your frame is strong so you don't put up with her sh|t. But regardless of how it plays out after you get in the door, if you don't have good looks that she finds initially appealing, you ain't getting in, PERIOD. That's a fact, Jack.
I think its about attraction template that has been blueprint in individual since childhood, how long the attraction may last, compatibility, a carry forward unresolved trauma she/he retains and play it in the relationship before it become toxic to bear.. No one can keep their poker face to last..

I call it an emotional level. And water seek its own level.
 

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all bs.

Just go out. less than 10 girls will be attracted to you and be willing to go home with you on any given night no matter if your ripped or fat. Seen guys who are too fat have girls into them and others who are ripped standing on the wall by themselves. It's all about opportunites and taking them. Girls have types as well. One girls 10 (YES) will be a negative 2 (NO) to another girl.
 

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Gold! I have also noticed this paradox. Looks are very subjective to women, but yet objective. Women are very idiosyncratic about the guys they find attractive yet there is still a universal standard. Weird huh
They may be “subjective” to women, but it’s really a case of which Chad is more her type. For instance, she might prefer Henry Cavill over Chris Hemsworth, thus be more inclined to go for Chads who fit the Henry Cavill mould. Regardless, she’s going to choose Hemsworth 10 times out of 10 than a guy who looks like Rick Moranis
 

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This forum doesn't like and isn't ready for the Blackpill. Rollo Tomassi is literally a Boomer lol

I would say life is 60% Blackpill 30% Redpill 10% Bluepill

That small % blue (in small & infrequent surprises) can and does work. But keep it small

Unfortunately many guys here are 90% Redpill 10% Black... which is overkill and they wonder why they get "rage" lol

Incels are typically the opposite. 90% Blackpill 10% Red... so of course they end up depressed

Gotta mix it up mate. Keep an eye on how much content you are absorbing. For me it's simple

60% Black 30% Red 10% Blue
In my opinion it is red 80% black 20%. The 20% is genetics the 80 is your own free will
 

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This forum doesn't like and isn't ready for the Blackpill. Rollo Tomassi is literally a Boomer lol

I would say life is 60% Blackpill 30% Redpill 10% Bluepill

That small % blue (in small & infrequent surprises) can and does work. But keep it small

Unfortunately many guys here are 90% Redpill 10% Black... which is overkill and they wonder why they get "rage" lol

Incels are typically the opposite. 90% Blackpill 10% Red... so of course they end up depressed

Gotta mix it up mate. Keep an eye on how much content you are absorbing. For me it's simple

60% Black 30% Red 10% Blue


When he goes on the rsd rants or calls everyone not in his RZ gang a con, I cringe and think OK boomer.

I do like Rollo overall though I am skeptical at times. The new book is better than I thought.


Similar to what you said, I think enough pickup will black pill a man. Herein lies why I think rsd Tyler is spot on with meditation. I bang with exploring consciousness and tripping. It knocks me on my ass. It's humbling. It obliterating. With black pill, if there's nothing to lose, you can't change shot, wtf do you have to lose???

It's in polar contrast to the doomer mindset.
 

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The old pickup model was looks don't matter. by metric and the ton of analytics, it is pretty crystal clear. But a trash up sell.


Look, play the hand you are dealt. There are short, ugly, broke ass lads pulling. The reality of looks matter, money, height, horn size, etc is an excuse to not get girls. Not getting girls is low t. It doesn't help you nor serve you.

A third of women will reject. Another third will flake. Another third will have interest. A miniscule amount you pull. The otherside will give digits or ig. You may go out and have no chemistry or unreconcileable differences. Inevitably, IT'S IRRELEVANT.

COMPLY OR BYE. #PULL OR #NEXT IOIs and choosing signals grant permission to approach. We're in a gynocentric world of algorithms pander to women.

Why the **** will a man internalize anything that will be a obstacle to get baeeeeees?

The soundtrack of your mind should be champion #win!
 

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They may be “subjective” to women, but it’s really a case of which Chad is more her type. For instance, she might prefer Henry Cavill over Chris Hemsworth, thus be more inclined to go for Chads who fit the Henry Cavill mould. Regardless, she’s going to choose Hemsworth 10 times out of 10 than a guy who looks like Rick Moranis
Yeh makes sense.
 

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Gold! I have also noticed this paradox. Looks are very subjective to women, but yet objective. Women are very idiosyncratic about the guys they find attractive yet there is still a universal standard. Weird huh
chaos theory in a nutshell
The old pickup model was looks don't matter. by metric and the ton of analytics, it is pretty crystal clear. But a trash up sell.


Look, play the hand you are dealt. There are short, ugly, broke ass lads pulling. The reality of looks matter, money, height, horn size, etc is an excuse to not get girls. Not getting girls is low t. It doesn't help you nor serve you.

A third of women will reject. Another third will flake. Another third will have interest. A miniscule amount you pull. The otherside will give digits or ig. You may go out and have no chemistry or unreconcileable differences. Inevitably, IT'S IRRELEVANT.

COMPLY OR BYE. #PULL OR #NEXT IOIs and choosing signals grant permission to approach. We're in a gynocentric world of algorithms pander to women.

Why the **** will a man internalize anything that will be a obstacle to get baeeeeees?

The soundtrack of your mind should be champion #win!
This is exactly it
 

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I'd say looks account for maybe 33% of your ability to attract a woman or multiple women. The rest is made up of your lifestyle, location, personality, consciousness, game.

I'm what people call a Natural and Charismatic. I'm a 7 in the looks department but do way better with women than my friends that are better looking than me and live at the gym.

It's better to have all areas of your life well rounded than to just focus on your looks.
 
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