"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Looks like they're starting to figure it out; Fox News says most men only want a woman who's nice.

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www.foxnews.com/opinion/2017/05/11/most-men-just-want-woman-whos-nice.html

They've got just about everything right in here to be honest. It's crazy how they need to make a news article about it as if it's just some big breakthrough in the dating community. But at least the shifting now and we can see that this is just the beginning for the media to say that women should take some responsibility in the relationship.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well probably due to the huge rise in Cluster B's. Their dangerous mind games is starting to come to the surface.
 

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At some point women wanted nice men, but they sure as fvck didn't care working for it. Now men want nice women and sure as fvck don't care working for it.

If everyone turned their fvcking fingers around to point at themselves rather than everyone else, then we might actually progress in society.
 

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At some point women wanted nice men, but they sure as fvck didn't care working for it. Now men want nice women and sure as fvck don't care working for it.

If everyone turned their fvcking fingers around to point at themselves rather than everyone else, then we might actually progress in society.
Yeah basically. It's like the saying about how everyone is trying to find the right person,but no one is trying to actually BE the right person.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yeah basically. It's like the saying about how everyone is trying to find the right person,but no one is trying to actually BE the right person.
Mr. Nice Guy? You know, the one that never gets laid.
 

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Nobody ever got laid by being nice.. they got laid by being "good"

Over time, society concept of nice became shallow.. a nice man used to be a good man or so it was perceived

Bad boys always got more laid with the younger crowd due to being "dominant in confidence"

However, they usually were also considered "losers"

In a society where a women value was considered also on her "boyfriend" value.

Of course the lady wanted to have a "nice" or "good" guy. They tend to win in term of society value.

Now in modern society, insta-love, insta-selfie etc.. where women have no more "limitations" to their contribution. Dating become hell of a game.

However in life.. there are always key éléments that never change: The best win, action over words, work to make it happen.

I am amazed how my générations have no définition of "working your relationship".. guys/girls want the perfect fairy tale instantly.

If they findout, they have to work it.. they eject. So many relations last so few months etc.. A LTR is work.

It just has worst as the person who makes à baby within the first months lol (sûre with âge we know what we want but you need time to know the other person)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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