"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Looks like they're starting to figure it out; Fox News says most men only want a woman who's nice.

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www.foxnews.com/opinion/2017/05/11/most-men-just-want-woman-whos-nice.html

They've got just about everything right in here to be honest. It's crazy how they need to make a news article about it as if it's just some big breakthrough in the dating community. But at least the shifting now and we can see that this is just the beginning for the media to say that women should take some responsibility in the relationship.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well probably due to the huge rise in Cluster B's. Their dangerous mind games is starting to come to the surface.
 

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At some point women wanted nice men, but they sure as fvck didn't care working for it. Now men want nice women and sure as fvck don't care working for it.

If everyone turned their fvcking fingers around to point at themselves rather than everyone else, then we might actually progress in society.
 

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At some point women wanted nice men, but they sure as fvck didn't care working for it. Now men want nice women and sure as fvck don't care working for it.

If everyone turned their fvcking fingers around to point at themselves rather than everyone else, then we might actually progress in society.
Yeah basically. It's like the saying about how everyone is trying to find the right person,but no one is trying to actually BE the right person.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah basically. It's like the saying about how everyone is trying to find the right person,but no one is trying to actually BE the right person.
Mr. Nice Guy? You know, the one that never gets laid.
 

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Nobody ever got laid by being nice.. they got laid by being "good"

Over time, society concept of nice became shallow.. a nice man used to be a good man or so it was perceived

Bad boys always got more laid with the younger crowd due to being "dominant in confidence"

However, they usually were also considered "losers"

In a society where a women value was considered also on her "boyfriend" value.

Of course the lady wanted to have a "nice" or "good" guy. They tend to win in term of society value.

Now in modern society, insta-love, insta-selfie etc.. where women have no more "limitations" to their contribution. Dating become hell of a game.

However in life.. there are always key éléments that never change: The best win, action over words, work to make it happen.

I am amazed how my générations have no définition of "working your relationship".. guys/girls want the perfect fairy tale instantly.

If they findout, they have to work it.. they eject. So many relations last so few months etc.. A LTR is work.

It just has worst as the person who makes à baby within the first months lol (sûre with âge we know what we want but you need time to know the other person)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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