Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Warrior74 said:Let me guess you aren't new here are ya? lol. Dude game on. Any fault is not your face, its your game. Man up and stop whining.
you were saying warrior?JustLurk said:Your looks aren't every girl's wet dream. Boo hoo.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ok gimme some tips to change then. a tan? a moustache, a beard what?ArcBound said:Yeah I mean you don't look like a movie star but you don't look bad. Guys with worse faces then you have lost their v-card and go out with beautiful women.
Seriously if you want you can come on this forum and blame all the inadequacies of your 35 year life on your face or you can man up and change. Jesus Christ you actually look fine, it's women that are insecure about their looks stop being one.
Sorry there is no way to help you - your ears are too big.NeedToImprove said:ok gimme some tips to change then. a tan? a moustache, a beard what?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
i agree , i have seen average ugly joes flirting like a Don juan de Marco with hot girlsjohn_trenor said:Also, once you believe me that it's all about confidence and not how you look, find some material on attracting women (with humor and confidence, for example), because this information will further help you get out of your low self esteem rough patch. Once you start having small successes you can build on those and get the prize
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I can see your problem right here. People take their time to help you out after you seek advice, then you dismiss it w/ sarcasm.Uglyfrustratedchump said:i will change my face with weights? LOL yeah ok
Next time i'm at the gym i will starting hiting my face with the weights, maybe it works
thanks mate
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.