That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Warrior74 said:Let me guess you aren't new here are ya? lol. Dude game on. Any fault is not your face, its your game. Man up and stop whining.
you were saying warrior?JustLurk said:Your looks aren't every girl's wet dream. Boo hoo.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
ok gimme some tips to change then. a tan? a moustache, a beard what?ArcBound said:Yeah I mean you don't look like a movie star but you don't look bad. Guys with worse faces then you have lost their v-card and go out with beautiful women.
Seriously if you want you can come on this forum and blame all the inadequacies of your 35 year life on your face or you can man up and change. Jesus Christ you actually look fine, it's women that are insecure about their looks stop being one.
Sorry there is no way to help you - your ears are too big.NeedToImprove said:ok gimme some tips to change then. a tan? a moustache, a beard what?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
i agree , i have seen average ugly joes flirting like a Don juan de Marco with hot girlsjohn_trenor said:Also, once you believe me that it's all about confidence and not how you look, find some material on attracting women (with humor and confidence, for example), because this information will further help you get out of your low self esteem rough patch. Once you start having small successes you can build on those and get the prize
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I can see your problem right here. People take their time to help you out after you seek advice, then you dismiss it w/ sarcasm.Uglyfrustratedchump said:i will change my face with weights? LOL yeah ok
Next time i'm at the gym i will starting hiting my face with the weights, maybe it works
thanks mate
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.