"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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looking your best all the time?

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for instance, on a normal day going to school or work, should you try to look your best. i normally don't gel my hair because it seems as if i'm making too much of an effort, unless i'm going out at night

also, i've started wearing much more casual clothing, like just a tshirt and jeans or trackies to uni. do u think i should make more of an effort than this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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gel is gay. makes your hair look wet all day. very gay.
 

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Originally posted by Tails
gel is gay. makes your hair look wet all day. very gay.
wax then
 

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good boy. wax is good. even though i don't use it. friend uses it. makes his hair look natural but styled.
 

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so should i use wax everyday to uni or is that overthetop?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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lol. err dude... don't do things you don't want to just because of looking good for others.

i dress up nice for myself not for others. they can kiss my ass. or if i don't shave and i think i should? i don't. i will shave when i feel like it.

so don't do things just because you think other people might like what they see. but for yourself. but it's nice to look good if you wanna attract girls. just look reasonably dressed well. don't go spiking your hair with all this gelly ****. just make it look good. use wax everyday, do what YOU want. wax isn't such a bad thing. but i use conditioner for my hair cause i like the smell and it also makes it look good and styled :p
 

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I admit, I really enjoy making an effort wherever I go. I groom, wear designer aftershaves and dress well every day I leave the house. From what people have told me, I'm generally perceived as a smart and sophisticated person.

It's all about creating a lasting impression and a presence in people's minds. People automatically create their own idea of your personality and your life from your appearance alone.

Think of women you see, but have never spoken to. I'm sure you have your own idea what sort of person they are just by looking at them, no? Which of these women are more attractive?

What's more, dressing well and grooming gives me more confidence as it can affect your perception of yourself. If you start to believe you are a classy and sophisticated person, you'll find it much easier to act this way.
 
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