"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Looking for help with online dating.

rrrrr

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I exchanged emails with this girl a while back. Her profile had hardly anything on it other than she's looking for a long term relationship. I wrote to her basically trying to get an idea of what she's all about. She responds and basically says she has no hobbies, and for fun likes to go out with friends and travel. She also gives me her phone number and asks me to call her. That's about it.

I have absolutely no idea where to go with this. I don't know if I should call her and ask her to lunch somewhere or try and talk to her on the phone. I know very little about her.

Any tips? I've never talked to a girl I met online and in this case I have nothing to go on.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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rrrrr said:
...Her profile had hardly anything on it other than she's looking for a long term relationship. I wrote to her basically trying to get an idea of what she's all about. She responds and basically says she has no hobbies, and for fun likes to go out with friends and travel. She also gives me her phone number and asks me to call her. That's about it...
So... What exactly attracts you to this woman?
 

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Here's a few tips... When she gave you her phone number, you could have said " Your giving your number to me that easy; it's gonna be a little bit harder than that for me to call you." Add a little bit of ****y humor to make her laugh. What I would do now is call her and set up a lunch date where you can get to know her. Let me know how it goes.
 

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if a chic hands her number over without even asking for it first.........odds are she is a slut. If you can handle a slut then rock on.

So when u call, suggest ever so slightly some sexual undertones to qualify this chic in the nice girl or slut category.

Make a date.........keep phone call to a minimum........DO A SEARCH FOR PHONE CALLS in this forum
 
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