"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Looking for advice with my 2nd child on the way

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randalljohnson said:
Define "locking me down." Is it

A) keeping me all for herself (not a bad thing)

Or

B) in a devious way trying to collect my money and assets and then leave me high and dry (which i don't believe, but u can be judge of that)
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No @randalljohnson you answer MY question first.

Did you both AGREE to have a baby together or not?

It's becoming very apparent that you like to throw down inflammatory posts, and then sit back and watch the chaos while you AVOID answering anyone's questions. Then you decide to chime in when you want to keep the thread going.

Her motives will be clear as soon as you answer the question. Did you both agree to get pregnant or did she get pregnant without discussing it with you?

Answer the question.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm leaning towards troll, btw
 
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sazc said:
No @randalljohnson you answer MY question first.

Did you both AGREE to have a baby together or not?

It's becoming very apparent that you like to throw down inflammatory posts, and then sit back and watch the chaos while you AVOID answering anyone's questions. Then you decide to chime in when you want to keep the thread going.

Her motives will be clear as soon as you answer the question. Did you both agree to get pregnant or did she get pregnant without discussing it with you?

Answer the question.
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Me and her have discussed having a kid and our future together, yes. At this specific juncture, no.
 
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sazc said:
No @randalljohnson you answer MY question first.

Did you both AGREE to have a baby together or not?

It's becoming very apparent that you like to throw down inflammatory posts, and then sit back and watch the chaos while you AVOID answering anyone's questions. Then you decide to chime in when you want to keep the thread going.

Her motives will be clear as soon as you answer the question. Did you both agree to get pregnant or did she get pregnant without discussing it with you?

Answer the question.
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Why do you think any of this is your business? Isn't this a little personal to be taking advice from strangers on the Internet?
 
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randalljohnson said:
Me and her have discussed having a kid and our future together, yes. At this specific juncture, no.
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Of all the babies ever born... How many times was it "agreed" that it would happen and how many times did it just happen?

Early humans didn't necessarily even know that sex led to reproduction.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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randalljohnson said:
Define "locking me down." Is it

A) keeping me all for herself (not a bad thing)

Or

B) in a devious way trying to collect my money and assets and then leave me high and dry (which i don't believe, but u can be judge of that)
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B
 
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randalljohnson said:
Define "locking me down." Is it

A) keeping me all for herself (not a bad thing)

Or

B) in a devious way trying to collect my money and assets and then leave me high and dry (which i don't believe, but u can be judge of that)
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Are you rich or something? How much do you make in a year?
 
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

And the multiple personality disorder conversation has arrived. Gotta make it look like you're not the same username, although I know differently.....
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Glassguy said:
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

And the multiple personality disorder conversation has arrived. Gotta make it look like you're not the same username, although I know differently.....
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Tell us about those businesses you run.

What exactly do they do?
 
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randalljohnson said:
Hey all. So my girlfriend (whom most of you are familiar with) is pregnant with my child and she's moving in to live with me and my kid. We've been together for just under a year. We each have a 9 year old, from seperate relationships. (I took on the father role for her kid and she loves that.) I'm sure many of you will tell me I made a huge mistake and that she's (still) going to leave me in the future. However, I'm looking for advice and insight from my fellow DJs.
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Your fooked...
 
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