Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Long-term female friend "would you date me"

Mongo720

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I will call my friend "Missy" 46yo

Backstory: Missy and I have been friends for few years and I truly enjoy her companionship, we flirt and just have fun together. Few moths ago she announces she wants me to meet her friend and I agree. Start dating said friend(Becky) and actually hit it off rather well, I'm still dating Becky !
Now fast forward few weeks..

Missy invites me out to drink and do our normal stuff. I go into the night knowing this might be a "**** test" or something they schemed up, as Becky is working this night. I did make Becky aware I was going out with our mutual friend

Missy gets drunk, starts saying crazy stuff "I should have scooped you up" "I need a real man like you" I shrug everything off, because I think Becky might just be a quality female. Then boom she tries to kiss and push things.... I then realized this wasn't a **** test of any type!!
This whole thing reminds me that some women will destroy anything if they want to get laid and friendzone can turn into more.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Few days later I hinted to Becky her "friend" asked me if I would date date her. That seems to have lit an even bigger competition within her now!
 

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I will call my friend "Missy" 46yo

Backstory: Missy and I have been friends for few years and I truly enjoy her companionship, we flirt and just have fun together. Few moths ago she announces she wants me to meet her friend and I agree. Start dating said friend(Becky) and actually hit it off rather well, I'm still dating Becky !
Now fast forward few weeks..

Missy invites me out to drink and do our normal stuff. I go into the night knowing this might be a "**** test" or something they schemed up, as Becky is working this night. I did make Becky aware I was going out with our mutual friend

Missy gets drunk, starts saying crazy stuff "I should have scooped you up" "I need a real man like you" I shrug everything off, because I think Becky might just be a quality female. Then boom she tries to kiss and push things.... I then realized this wasn't a **** test of any type!!
This whole thing reminds me that some women will destroy anything if they want to get laid and friendzone can turn into more.
If that's what she wanted she should have taken some initiative instead of introducing you to her friend.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She probably thought differently of you until her friend started telling her stuff and then she realized the image she had in her mind of you was all wrong and she became a lot more attracted to you.
 
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