"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Long distance relationships

B-Real

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What are some of the things one must do in order to keep a long distance relationship from going south? I met a girl 2 hours away and we really hit it off.

I met her through another friend so we have the same resources and some of the same friends. She claims her feelings for me are very strong and that she things that if we really care for each other the way we say we do then things can work.

I mean I know I need to go see her as much as possible and its not that big of a deal since she lives in my hometown (im in college) but I was wondering if there are other things that I must have/do in order for this to work.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MacAvoy

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Date other women. Seriously, I was in a LDR for over a year and the only thing that kept it going was that I had other girls back home to keep me busy. This accomplished two things, the need for regular sex and secondly, they do it because its perfect for them, they get a surrogate b/f without the regular hassle, they get the commitment / support, feeling of being loved / needed, the security but they also have their freedom.

Now granted most good women won't cheat but they'll likely branch swing. So take the same positive parts of it that she is, and combine it with the benefits of her not finding out what your doing. Then when things go south when its not an LRD, you won't feel bad for wasting your time and will still had a great loving relationship.

However I wouldn't even consider entering an LDR if there isn't a willingness on one of the parties before hand to move at some point, otherwise your guaranteeing failure.
 

The Inside Man

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2 hours isn't that far, but yeah. what everyone else said..I've had a couple in my younger days and will not ever again. It's not worth it, unless you are planning to move closer or she is within the next several months.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Maxtro

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Some chick I'm into is in a LDR with a guy in Hawaii... She goes back there every couple of months, for reasons I can't understand. I just learned that she is feeling lonely when she is in California, and I decided that I'm going to end that. If she ends up cheating on her boyfriend, oh well, sucks for him.
 

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Maxtro said:
Some chick I'm into is in a LDR with a guy in Hawaii... She goes back there every couple of months, for reasons I can't understand. I just learned that she is feeling lonely when she is in California, and I decided that I'm going to end that. If she ends up cheating on her boyfriend, oh well, sucks for him.
Thas fine just remember Karmas a *****...It might happen to you when you have a gf
 

Maxtro

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AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
Thas fine just remember Karmas a *****...It might happen to you when you have a gf
No worries Earl, I'm never going to have a long distance relationship. If the dude was local I wouldn't bother with her. But because they are about 3,000 miles away and separated by an ocean I think she is fair game. Also she choose to leave him and go to another state. Just by looking at her it's easy to tell why the guy wants to stay attached to her but they should have just broken up when she made it known that she wanted to leave.
 

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If you like her enough...ie. she's worth waiting for, then don't be a jackass and cheat on her. If you dont think she's worth waiting for, don't be a jackass and wait (and make her wait).
 

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Amor de lejos es para pendejos.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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