Long distance relationships

[B-Real]

What are some of the things one must do in order to keep a long distance relationship from going south? I met a girl 2 hours away and we really hit it off.

I met her through another friend so we have the same resources and some of the same friends. She claims her feelings for me are very strong and that she things that if we really care for each other the way we say we do then things can work.

I mean I know I need to go see her as much as possible and its not that big of a deal since she lives in my hometown (im in college) but I was wondering if there are other things that I must have/do in order for this to work.

 

[MacAvoy]

Date other women. Seriously, I was in a LDR for over a year and the only thing that kept it going was that I had other girls back home to keep me busy. This accomplished two things, the need for regular sex and secondly, they do it because its perfect for them, they get a surrogate b/f without the regular hassle, they get the commitment / support, feeling of being loved / needed, the security but they also have their freedom.

Now granted most good women won't cheat but they'll likely branch swing. So take the same positive parts of it that she is, and combine it with the benefits of her not finding out what your doing. Then when things go south when its not an LRD, you won't feel bad for wasting your time and will still had a great loving relationship.

However I wouldn't even consider entering an LDR if there isn't a willingness on one of the parties before hand to move at some point, otherwise your guaranteeing failure.

 

[WC2]

They usually do not work

 

[ducaro]

I'd be a little more precise... They almost always don't work

 

[The Inside Man]

2 hours isn't that far, but yeah. what everyone else said..I've had a couple in my younger days and will not ever again. It's not worth it, unless you are planning to move closer or she is within the next several months.

 

[Maxtro]

Some chick I'm into is in a LDR with a guy in Hawaii... She goes back there every couple of months, for reasons I can't understand. I just learned that she is feeling lonely when she is in California, and I decided that I'm going to end that. If she ends up cheating on her boyfriend, oh well, sucks for him.

 

[AfRoSwiss-Disiac]

Some chick I'm into is in a LDR with a guy in Hawaii... She goes back there every couple of months, for reasons I can't understand. I just learned that she is feeling lonely when she is in California, and I decided that I'm going to end that. If she ends up cheating on her boyfriend, oh well, sucks for him.

Thas fine just remember Karmas a *****...It might happen to you when you have a gf

 

[Maxtro]

Thas fine just remember Karmas a *****...It might happen to you when you have a gf

No worries Earl, I'm never going to have a long distance relationship. If the dude was local I wouldn't bother with her. But because they are about 3,000 miles away and separated by an ocean I think she is fair game. Also she choose to leave him and go to another state. Just by looking at her it's easy to tell why the guy wants to stay attached to her but they should have just broken up when she made it known that she wanted to leave.

 

[steve12b]

If you like her enough...ie. she's worth waiting for, then don't be a jackass and cheat on her. If you dont think she's worth waiting for, don't be a jackass and wait (and make her wait).

 

[Leporello]

Amor de lejos es para pendejos.

 

[DonGorgon]

are bogus.