"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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B-Real

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What are some of the things one must do in order to keep a long distance relationship from going south? I met a girl 2 hours away and we really hit it off.

I met her through another friend so we have the same resources and some of the same friends. She claims her feelings for me are very strong and that she things that if we really care for each other the way we say we do then things can work.

I mean I know I need to go see her as much as possible and its not that big of a deal since she lives in my hometown (im in college) but I was wondering if there are other things that I must have/do in order for this to work.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MacAvoy

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Date other women. Seriously, I was in a LDR for over a year and the only thing that kept it going was that I had other girls back home to keep me busy. This accomplished two things, the need for regular sex and secondly, they do it because its perfect for them, they get a surrogate b/f without the regular hassle, they get the commitment / support, feeling of being loved / needed, the security but they also have their freedom.

Now granted most good women won't cheat but they'll likely branch swing. So take the same positive parts of it that she is, and combine it with the benefits of her not finding out what your doing. Then when things go south when its not an LRD, you won't feel bad for wasting your time and will still had a great loving relationship.

However I wouldn't even consider entering an LDR if there isn't a willingness on one of the parties before hand to move at some point, otherwise your guaranteeing failure.
 

The Inside Man

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2 hours isn't that far, but yeah. what everyone else said..I've had a couple in my younger days and will not ever again. It's not worth it, unless you are planning to move closer or she is within the next several months.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Maxtro

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Some chick I'm into is in a LDR with a guy in Hawaii... She goes back there every couple of months, for reasons I can't understand. I just learned that she is feeling lonely when she is in California, and I decided that I'm going to end that. If she ends up cheating on her boyfriend, oh well, sucks for him.
 

AfRoSwiss-Disiac

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Maxtro said:
Some chick I'm into is in a LDR with a guy in Hawaii... She goes back there every couple of months, for reasons I can't understand. I just learned that she is feeling lonely when she is in California, and I decided that I'm going to end that. If she ends up cheating on her boyfriend, oh well, sucks for him.
Thas fine just remember Karmas a *****...It might happen to you when you have a gf
 

Maxtro

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AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
Thas fine just remember Karmas a *****...It might happen to you when you have a gf
No worries Earl, I'm never going to have a long distance relationship. If the dude was local I wouldn't bother with her. But because they are about 3,000 miles away and separated by an ocean I think she is fair game. Also she choose to leave him and go to another state. Just by looking at her it's easy to tell why the guy wants to stay attached to her but they should have just broken up when she made it known that she wanted to leave.
 

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If you like her enough...ie. she's worth waiting for, then don't be a jackass and cheat on her. If you dont think she's worth waiting for, don't be a jackass and wait (and make her wait).
 

Leporello

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Amor de lejos es para pendejos.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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