"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Long distance relationships

B-Real

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What are some of the things one must do in order to keep a long distance relationship from going south? I met a girl 2 hours away and we really hit it off.

I met her through another friend so we have the same resources and some of the same friends. She claims her feelings for me are very strong and that she things that if we really care for each other the way we say we do then things can work.

I mean I know I need to go see her as much as possible and its not that big of a deal since she lives in my hometown (im in college) but I was wondering if there are other things that I must have/do in order for this to work.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MacAvoy

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Date other women. Seriously, I was in a LDR for over a year and the only thing that kept it going was that I had other girls back home to keep me busy. This accomplished two things, the need for regular sex and secondly, they do it because its perfect for them, they get a surrogate b/f without the regular hassle, they get the commitment / support, feeling of being loved / needed, the security but they also have their freedom.

Now granted most good women won't cheat but they'll likely branch swing. So take the same positive parts of it that she is, and combine it with the benefits of her not finding out what your doing. Then when things go south when its not an LRD, you won't feel bad for wasting your time and will still had a great loving relationship.

However I wouldn't even consider entering an LDR if there isn't a willingness on one of the parties before hand to move at some point, otherwise your guaranteeing failure.
 

The Inside Man

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2 hours isn't that far, but yeah. what everyone else said..I've had a couple in my younger days and will not ever again. It's not worth it, unless you are planning to move closer or she is within the next several months.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Maxtro

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Some chick I'm into is in a LDR with a guy in Hawaii... She goes back there every couple of months, for reasons I can't understand. I just learned that she is feeling lonely when she is in California, and I decided that I'm going to end that. If she ends up cheating on her boyfriend, oh well, sucks for him.
 

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Maxtro said:
Some chick I'm into is in a LDR with a guy in Hawaii... She goes back there every couple of months, for reasons I can't understand. I just learned that she is feeling lonely when she is in California, and I decided that I'm going to end that. If she ends up cheating on her boyfriend, oh well, sucks for him.
Thas fine just remember Karmas a *****...It might happen to you when you have a gf
 

Maxtro

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AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
Thas fine just remember Karmas a *****...It might happen to you when you have a gf
No worries Earl, I'm never going to have a long distance relationship. If the dude was local I wouldn't bother with her. But because they are about 3,000 miles away and separated by an ocean I think she is fair game. Also she choose to leave him and go to another state. Just by looking at her it's easy to tell why the guy wants to stay attached to her but they should have just broken up when she made it known that she wanted to leave.
 

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If you like her enough...ie. she's worth waiting for, then don't be a jackass and cheat on her. If you dont think she's worth waiting for, don't be a jackass and wait (and make her wait).
 

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Amor de lejos es para pendejos.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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