why not? don't look like she want anything with you so why you should?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Long Distance Relationship.... who has done this?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Not necessarily. I think a lot of these divorced women have their kids out of the house and are "enjoying their freedom" . Yeah they are spinning plates too....
If your woman of interest shows you some more interest, enjoy it while it lasts. If she asks "what are we?" then you tell her "When we are together, we are together. Apart we need to live our own lives accordingly."
Keep meeting people, especially women. If you find yourselves a few months down the line talking bout her moving to your area or vice versa, then it's time to have the exclusivity talk. But don't ever think you don't have options. Menopausal women can be horny as hell and just want sex, but want to be discreet about it.
Thanks everyone for the advice. I’m moving on from this fiasco before it goes any further. Just trying to meet women and have fun. Forget relationships is right. If something transpires then whatever. Just trying to spin plates
dustmuffin
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I think I know who you are dating. My mouth is shut tight.
I’m not dating anyone. What I’ve got it’s a long distance text and phone call buddy
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
totally agree..... it is not a relationship and I see that now. It is definitely "settling" just because the gal is interested and engaged.
focusing on spinning local plates now.
I was only able to make it work once and in that case the women who became my wife moved to be with me after 3 months of us being apart.
The other long distance relationships were fun for sure. Weekend time was fun and you didnt see them during the week so it was normally great. Just hard to make them work long term unless a move to be with each other is imminent in a short time frame.
Keeping long distance friendships seems to be alot easier
The other long distance relationships were fun for sure. Weekend time was fun and you didnt see them during the week so it was normally great. Just hard to make them work long term unless a move to be with each other is imminent in a short time frame.
Keeping long distance friendships seems to be alot easier
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LDR can work if you are planning on closing the distance sooner than later.
But if your are going to see other from a distance for a long azz period of time?
Its never going to work.. Trust me boyo sooner or later she monkey branch to an option closer to her.
But if your are going to see other from a distance for a long azz period of time?
Its never going to work.. Trust me boyo sooner or later she monkey branch to an option closer to her.
thankyou everyone... I went dark on this gal.. no freakin way would it work. I was just being desperate and willing to settle for less than I want. Hell, honestly I do not even know if I can handle a relationship after the failures I have had with others. just gonna spin plates and have fun right now.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
