why not? don't look like she want anything with you so why you should?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Long Distance Relationship.... who has done this?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
2Rocky
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Not necessarily. I think a lot of these divorced women have their kids out of the house and are "enjoying their freedom" . Yeah they are spinning plates too....
If your woman of interest shows you some more interest, enjoy it while it lasts. If she asks "what are we?" then you tell her "When we are together, we are together. Apart we need to live our own lives accordingly."
Keep meeting people, especially women. If you find yourselves a few months down the line talking bout her moving to your area or vice versa, then it's time to have the exclusivity talk. But don't ever think you don't have options. Menopausal women can be horny as hell and just want sex, but want to be discreet about it.
Thanks everyone for the advice. I’m moving on from this fiasco before it goes any further. Just trying to meet women and have fun. Forget relationships is right. If something transpires then whatever. Just trying to spin plates
dustmuffin
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I think I know who you are dating. My mouth is shut tight.
I’m not dating anyone. What I’ve got it’s a long distance text and phone call buddy
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
totally agree..... it is not a relationship and I see that now. It is definitely "settling" just because the gal is interested and engaged.
focusing on spinning local plates now.
I was only able to make it work once and in that case the women who became my wife moved to be with me after 3 months of us being apart.
The other long distance relationships were fun for sure. Weekend time was fun and you didnt see them during the week so it was normally great. Just hard to make them work long term unless a move to be with each other is imminent in a short time frame.
Keeping long distance friendships seems to be alot easier
The other long distance relationships were fun for sure. Weekend time was fun and you didnt see them during the week so it was normally great. Just hard to make them work long term unless a move to be with each other is imminent in a short time frame.
Keeping long distance friendships seems to be alot easier
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LDR can work if you are planning on closing the distance sooner than later.
But if your are going to see other from a distance for a long azz period of time?
Its never going to work.. Trust me boyo sooner or later she monkey branch to an option closer to her.
But if your are going to see other from a distance for a long azz period of time?
Its never going to work.. Trust me boyo sooner or later she monkey branch to an option closer to her.
thankyou everyone... I went dark on this gal.. no freakin way would it work. I was just being desperate and willing to settle for less than I want. Hell, honestly I do not even know if I can handle a relationship after the failures I have had with others. just gonna spin plates and have fun right now.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
