why not? don't look like she want anything with you so why you should?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Long Distance Relationship.... who has done this?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Not necessarily. I think a lot of these divorced women have their kids out of the house and are "enjoying their freedom" . Yeah they are spinning plates too....
If your woman of interest shows you some more interest, enjoy it while it lasts. If she asks "what are we?" then you tell her "When we are together, we are together. Apart we need to live our own lives accordingly."
Keep meeting people, especially women. If you find yourselves a few months down the line talking bout her moving to your area or vice versa, then it's time to have the exclusivity talk. But don't ever think you don't have options. Menopausal women can be horny as hell and just want sex, but want to be discreet about it.
Thanks everyone for the advice. I’m moving on from this fiasco before it goes any further. Just trying to meet women and have fun. Forget relationships is right. If something transpires then whatever. Just trying to spin plates
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I think I know who you are dating. My mouth is shut tight.
I’m not dating anyone. What I’ve got it’s a long distance text and phone call buddy
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
totally agree..... it is not a relationship and I see that now. It is definitely "settling" just because the gal is interested and engaged.
focusing on spinning local plates now.
I was only able to make it work once and in that case the women who became my wife moved to be with me after 3 months of us being apart.
The other long distance relationships were fun for sure. Weekend time was fun and you didnt see them during the week so it was normally great. Just hard to make them work long term unless a move to be with each other is imminent in a short time frame.
Keeping long distance friendships seems to be alot easier
The other long distance relationships were fun for sure. Weekend time was fun and you didnt see them during the week so it was normally great. Just hard to make them work long term unless a move to be with each other is imminent in a short time frame.
Keeping long distance friendships seems to be alot easier
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LDR can work if you are planning on closing the distance sooner than later.
But if your are going to see other from a distance for a long azz period of time?
Its never going to work.. Trust me boyo sooner or later she monkey branch to an option closer to her.
But if your are going to see other from a distance for a long azz period of time?
Its never going to work.. Trust me boyo sooner or later she monkey branch to an option closer to her.
thankyou everyone... I went dark on this gal.. no freakin way would it work. I was just being desperate and willing to settle for less than I want. Hell, honestly I do not even know if I can handle a relationship after the failures I have had with others. just gonna spin plates and have fun right now.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
