You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This reaches mainstream because the statistics are unable to ignore anymore. The upcoming of the RP was the first sign, and under the radar the blackpill grew just as big.When CNN covers this topic, then you know it's serious!
Any thoughts?
And yet, it just goes on and on.That is actually big because CNN is as left as you can get for mainstream media, and you can even see the reporter is very careful with the wording to appease the feminist liberals who are watching the newscast, not to offend anyone so you know it's much worst than the sugar-coated delivery. If they are talking about it like that, then its bad. Period.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Depends on if they feel the juice is worth the squeeze. From the feedback on this board, you can easily spot who is in the right zone, in terms of looks, status and game and who is more average and miserable. Some have opted out entirely and have gone MTGOW/MTGOW monk-mode.Interesting replies. Can an average guy with strong enough game make it through the the current social media culture that is tilted in favor of women and secure a long-term relationship with high-quality girl, or are his days numbered?
Interesting to know. I haven't been on this site in a while. Just curious how the posters here feel about game and how it works in the current social media world of Tinder, OnlyFans, thirst trapping, and DM sliding.Depends on if they feel the juice is worth the squeeze. From the feedback on this board, you can easily spot who is in the right zone, in terms of looks, status and game and who is more average and miserable. Some have opted out entirely and have gone MTGOW/MTGOW monk-mode.
For example, if you take an above average looking poster like @SW15 and look at the trouble he has to go through with cold-approaching, even as far as having to see a shrink because of the rejections from cold-approach and treatment from women, and how keeps advocating no fap no porn, then it seems like someone has to go through a garguantian and time-consuming effort and you might end up with a very small rotation at the end of the day if you are lucky. I wouldn't say he's even seeing any high-quality women on an LTR.
You have chad-framed (but average looking facially I guesss) guys like @sangheilios as well but he's struggling to find his look-match or higher. It's like 3-4 points lower.
Then you have other posters like @BackInTheGame78 @European-DJ @Murk @LucianoM @Barrister @SargeMaximus to name a few that seem to be cleaning house, so I guess they might have better looks?
It's crazy. A young adult female who struggled to get guys to notice her in the early to mid-1990s and even late-1990s would be bombarded with online dating messages today.It’s ****ing crazy right now. In high school I could’ve dated this girl. Fast forward to now, she’s divorced and has a 7 year old. Ive never married and kidless yet she has rejected me recently. It’s unbelievable.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Same here, which is why I tagged them. My own journey is one of weight-loss and my weight and age has me on a sub-5 looks level, so I'm working on losing weight and improving my looks. I was sort of discouraged with web-based dating and if that was hard, I'm not even bothering with modern dating apps because the negative feedback loops with the algorithms are too daunting.Interesting to know. I haven't been on this site in a while. Just curious how the posters here feel about game and how it works in the current social media world of Tinder, OnlyFans, thirst trapping, and DM sliding.
Keep doing your thang, man. Sometimes, not even approaching women and staying on your grind leads to the best results with women.Same here, which is why I tagged them. My own journey is one of weight-loss and my weight and age has me on a sub-5 looks level, so I'm working on losing weight and improving my looks. I was sort of discouraged with web-based dating and if that was hard, I'm not even bothering with modern dating apps because the negative feedback loops with the algorithms are too daunting.
I am handsome, my pictures were all 95%+ as rated on the pic app thread on here. Female posters here can also attest to that plus sazc if she ever comes back (I doubt it). Being handsome and tall has made it easy for me, I don't hide that fact. I have a well-rounded and confident personality to go with it, so I did well even at 20-25% body fat which according to this forum would be too fat to do as well as I was doing, even on OLD. My face and height got me in the door and my personality did the rest.Then you have other posters like @Murk to name a few that seem to be cleaning house, so I guess they might have better looks?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
At least you are honest about it and not hiding behind game. If you cant put your foot in the door in the first place then game is irrelevant.I am handsome, my pictures were all 95%+ as rated on the pic app thread on here. Female posters here can also attest to that plus sazc if she ever comes back (I doubt it). Being handsome and tall has made it easy for me, I don't hide that fact. I have a well-rounded and confident personality to go with it, so I did well even at 20-25% body fat which according to this forum would be too fat to do as well as I was doing, even on OLD. My face and height got me in the door and my personality did the rest.
My mission now is 12% BF (for Testosterone purposes) I'm about 17-16% now, there's no doubt not being ripped has held me back all these years, I liked to drink and party too much, but I was able to get by with women so not really motivated to get into great shape. I've learned a good face and height can do wonders. Probably not what many want to hear.
I really wouldn’t take the “cleaning house” types on here too seriouslyDepends on if they feel the juice is worth the squeeze. From the feedback on this board, you can easily spot who is in the right zone, in terms of looks, status and game and who is more average and miserable. Some have opted out entirely and have gone MTGOW/MTGOW monk-mode.
For example, if you take an above average looking poster like @SW15 and look at the trouble he has to go through with cold-approaching, even as far as having to see a shrink because of the rejections from cold-approach and treatment from women, and how keeps advocating no fap no porn, then it seems like someone has to go through a garguantian and time-consuming effort and you might end up with a very small rotation at the end of the day if you are lucky. I wouldn't say he's even seeing any high-quality women on an LTR.
You have chad-framed (but average looking facially I guesss) guys like @sangheilios as well but he's struggling to find his look-match or higher. It's like 3-4 points lower.
Then you have other posters like @BackInTheGame78 @European-DJ @Murk @LucianoM @Barrister @SargeMaximus to name a few that seem to be cleaning house, so I guess they might have better looks?
What’s unfortunate about it? The reality is that there’s a shocking lack of violence in society.Few men will cope well with lack of success with women. Some will become violent unfortunately.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.