She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This reaches mainstream because the statistics are unable to ignore anymore. The upcoming of the RP was the first sign, and under the radar the blackpill grew just as big.When CNN covers this topic, then you know it's serious!
Any thoughts?
And yet, it just goes on and on.That is actually big because CNN is as left as you can get for mainstream media, and you can even see the reporter is very careful with the wording to appease the feminist liberals who are watching the newscast, not to offend anyone so you know it's much worst than the sugar-coated delivery. If they are talking about it like that, then its bad. Period.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Depends on if they feel the juice is worth the squeeze. From the feedback on this board, you can easily spot who is in the right zone, in terms of looks, status and game and who is more average and miserable. Some have opted out entirely and have gone MTGOW/MTGOW monk-mode.Interesting replies. Can an average guy with strong enough game make it through the the current social media culture that is tilted in favor of women and secure a long-term relationship with high-quality girl, or are his days numbered?
Interesting to know. I haven't been on this site in a while. Just curious how the posters here feel about game and how it works in the current social media world of Tinder, OnlyFans, thirst trapping, and DM sliding.Depends on if they feel the juice is worth the squeeze. From the feedback on this board, you can easily spot who is in the right zone, in terms of looks, status and game and who is more average and miserable. Some have opted out entirely and have gone MTGOW/MTGOW monk-mode.
For example, if you take an above average looking poster like @SW15 and look at the trouble he has to go through with cold-approaching, even as far as having to see a shrink because of the rejections from cold-approach and treatment from women, and how keeps advocating no fap no porn, then it seems like someone has to go through a garguantian and time-consuming effort and you might end up with a very small rotation at the end of the day if you are lucky. I wouldn't say he's even seeing any high-quality women on an LTR.
You have chad-framed (but average looking facially I guesss) guys like @sangheilios as well but he's struggling to find his look-match or higher. It's like 3-4 points lower.
Then you have other posters like @BackInTheGame78 @European-DJ @Murk @LucianoM @Barrister @SargeMaximus to name a few that seem to be cleaning house, so I guess they might have better looks?
It's crazy. A young adult female who struggled to get guys to notice her in the early to mid-1990s and even late-1990s would be bombarded with online dating messages today.It’s ****ing crazy right now. In high school I could’ve dated this girl. Fast forward to now, she’s divorced and has a 7 year old. Ive never married and kidless yet she has rejected me recently. It’s unbelievable.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Same here, which is why I tagged them. My own journey is one of weight-loss and my weight and age has me on a sub-5 looks level, so I'm working on losing weight and improving my looks. I was sort of discouraged with web-based dating and if that was hard, I'm not even bothering with modern dating apps because the negative feedback loops with the algorithms are too daunting.Interesting to know. I haven't been on this site in a while. Just curious how the posters here feel about game and how it works in the current social media world of Tinder, OnlyFans, thirst trapping, and DM sliding.
Keep doing your thang, man. Sometimes, not even approaching women and staying on your grind leads to the best results with women.Same here, which is why I tagged them. My own journey is one of weight-loss and my weight and age has me on a sub-5 looks level, so I'm working on losing weight and improving my looks. I was sort of discouraged with web-based dating and if that was hard, I'm not even bothering with modern dating apps because the negative feedback loops with the algorithms are too daunting.
I am handsome, my pictures were all 95%+ as rated on the pic app thread on here. Female posters here can also attest to that plus sazc if she ever comes back (I doubt it). Being handsome and tall has made it easy for me, I don't hide that fact. I have a well-rounded and confident personality to go with it, so I did well even at 20-25% body fat which according to this forum would be too fat to do as well as I was doing, even on OLD. My face and height got me in the door and my personality did the rest.Then you have other posters like @Murk to name a few that seem to be cleaning house, so I guess they might have better looks?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
At least you are honest about it and not hiding behind game. If you cant put your foot in the door in the first place then game is irrelevant.I am handsome, my pictures were all 95%+ as rated on the pic app thread on here. Female posters here can also attest to that plus sazc if she ever comes back (I doubt it). Being handsome and tall has made it easy for me, I don't hide that fact. I have a well-rounded and confident personality to go with it, so I did well even at 20-25% body fat which according to this forum would be too fat to do as well as I was doing, even on OLD. My face and height got me in the door and my personality did the rest.
My mission now is 12% BF (for Testosterone purposes) I'm about 17-16% now, there's no doubt not being ripped has held me back all these years, I liked to drink and party too much, but I was able to get by with women so not really motivated to get into great shape. I've learned a good face and height can do wonders. Probably not what many want to hear.
I really wouldn’t take the “cleaning house” types on here too seriouslyDepends on if they feel the juice is worth the squeeze. From the feedback on this board, you can easily spot who is in the right zone, in terms of looks, status and game and who is more average and miserable. Some have opted out entirely and have gone MTGOW/MTGOW monk-mode.
For example, if you take an above average looking poster like @SW15 and look at the trouble he has to go through with cold-approaching, even as far as having to see a shrink because of the rejections from cold-approach and treatment from women, and how keeps advocating no fap no porn, then it seems like someone has to go through a garguantian and time-consuming effort and you might end up with a very small rotation at the end of the day if you are lucky. I wouldn't say he's even seeing any high-quality women on an LTR.
You have chad-framed (but average looking facially I guesss) guys like @sangheilios as well but he's struggling to find his look-match or higher. It's like 3-4 points lower.
Then you have other posters like @BackInTheGame78 @European-DJ @Murk @LucianoM @Barrister @SargeMaximus to name a few that seem to be cleaning house, so I guess they might have better looks?
What’s unfortunate about it? The reality is that there’s a shocking lack of violence in society.Few men will cope well with lack of success with women. Some will become violent unfortunately.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.